my gf kissed another guy

[ind123456789]

hey guys,

i am lil confused , my gf and me r together from 3 yrs , now she has shifted to another country for studies and things have not been same from3-4 weeks now , we have been away for 8 months now , the problem started when we got into an argument about how we are not talking a lot nowadays , she cried and told me she would work on it .

but a few days ago she said she wants to talk to me .

next day she told me she wants to break up with me as she doesnt feel its gonna work out .

i tried convincing her a lot as i still love her a lot . she said give her a week and she will respond .

i waited and after a week of absolutely no contact , i called her , and she told me bluntly its not gonna workout and this is over .

again for the whole day i tried convincing her tht it could work out and ill come to her every 2 months or so to make it work .

she was adamant of not making it through .

in between the conversation when she was crying and telling me its not gonna work out , she told me she kissed a guy .

i was shattered , i asked her if the guy made the move and she was not able to respond that time or something but she told me , he initiated but she continued the kiss and finished it .

that was the point i had tears in my eyes .

i have never cried in my life .

i somehow got a grip to it and told her its ok , it happens could be a mistake and said we can work thru it .

but somehow it didnt work out and she told me no no she doesnt want this relationship and from past six months she had stopped loving me lesser n lesser .

i didnt know what to say and told her ill still wait for her as i still love her more than anything

next morning she called me crying and told me that she still loves me but cant stand the feeling of missing me everyday and thats y wanted to break up but now she doesnt want to and she feels stupid thinking how much she loves me and what stupidity she was going to do .

i told her its all cool and we will work it out and ill come there in a months time .

now that i sit alone , i think .if it was a right decision that i took . i know i love her a lot and that cant change anyway but she did cheat on me .

but on the other side , she also told me .

i am confused on how to work this out as she doesnt want to tell me who he was and says she will wait for me as long as i want .

right now i am confused and want to know if i did the right thing .

i have already told her about this kiss thing and she told me it was a mistake she did and wants to be forgiven .

thanks guys in advance . ( both for reading and answering if possible )

[d0nnivain]

Very few relationships survive the transition from first teen love to adulthood. The distance & the new exciting world one finds at university combine to end the connection.

 

 

As much as it hurts, that is what is happening here.

 

 

You have to let her go.