lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 So my best friend is engaged. The girl and I get along really well. We both have a really flirty personality and talk junk to each other all the time. She has told him she thinks I am hot and I have told him the same about her. So there is a little sexual tension there. Well last night I was up late and she works 3rd so I messaged her on Facebook. Here is how it went down. Me: Hey girl! Long time no see..we should change that. Your fiance is working at his place (My best friend and I live about an hour from her) this weekend. Just saying lol Her:Hey oh really?? Are you trying to hangout or something?? Me: Def. you want to? Her: sounds good to me...I've been thinking about you anyways Me: Oh really? What about me? Her: Just how sexy you are Me: I'm sure he'd like to see that lol Me: well probably as much as he would like to see his best friend asking his fiance to hangout her: haa true it'll be our little secret! me: idc tho...you sexy as **** me: I'd hit is all I'm sayin haha jk Her: Thanks oh you would?? me: I was joking..but maybe lol her: haaa, you aint joking Me: you hope I ain't joking her: what if I do? me: you serious?? her: maybe... me: you a bad girl her: I'm actually pretty good... Me: oh really? Her: Maybe Me: you good at keeping secrets?? Her: very Me: you better be if im gonna slide between those sexy ass legs you got Her: oh i can def keep a secret for that Me: So are we really doing this or are you just a tease?? me: its so wrong lol Her: up to you. Saturday. 8. See you then Me: I told him one time i would get with you if i got the chance. He laughed. See ya soon saturday...maybe Her: he wouldn't be laughing if he saw this see ya saturday...maybe Me: we are bad one time thing if it happens... her: yea ok lol So after that I messaged her this morning and asked if she was serious or just horny last night. She said she was horny but she still wants to do it. So what should I do? Tell him? Do this once and end the fantasy? I will say we have a good connection and are both really attracted to one another. She has told me before she has pretended it was me having sex with her while they were having sex. I'm stuck. I know it is bad and we shouldn't talk like this but now I really want to hookup with her. Advice please on how to handle this.
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 She just sent me some pics...I have to. She is way to hot not to. I hate it for him tho.
stillafool Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 This is what you do to your best friend? God save me from so called best friends. I can't understand why either of you would want this slut. 1
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 She has only been with him and like one other guy from her relationship before. Not a slut. She is just really a flirty person and so am I. I didn't know she was really serious until she sent the pics. I don't want to do this to him but I have had a crush on her since I met her. Hard not to...
Chi townD Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Wow, congrats! You are in for one serious ass whoopin! You're going to destroy a friendship and an engagement for your own selfish gratification. You're going to screw your friend over like that? You make me sick. 4
ctxinfl Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I wouldn't refer to this guy as your best friend if you are even considering going through with this. Actually, I wouldn't refer to him as your best friend for even bringing up the notion with her. Words mean something and the conversation you had with her will likely result in their relationship ending as well as the termination of your friendship.
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 OK you have some options: 1) Screw her and have a good night, ruin their marriage (which doesn't seem like it's gong to last long anyway) and your friendship forever. 2) Do nothing, likely she'll cheat with someone else but at least you keep your friend (as long as he doesn't find out what you've been up to already) 3) Tell your friend that you were testing her faithfulness and show him the messages. You'll ruin their marriage (which seems doomed to fail anyway), but save or even strengthen your friendship. If you don't mind a friendship built on lies, that is. Or just do the decent thing and walk away from the whole situation.
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 I haven't gone thru with it yet. And he knows I'm going to visit her this weekend because I told him. I think I am going to try and talk to her about this and where it would leave her and I. I don't think I am going to tell him about that convo but I am going to stop it there.
TAV Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Oh yeah, the fact that she is so hot and gets you going makes it all ok. You are going to feel mighty good afterwards too. For about 5 seconds that is. And then you feel like crap. Nailed the woman, sold your soul and once you crossed this boundary why not cross many others. Friendship means ****, a promise to marry means crap all too. Yeah, us humans have really evolved. And no, she is not slut at all, you are right. She promised your friend to marry him and she wants to get into your pants at the same time. A real honourable human being. And the fact that she thinks about you when he is ****ing her just makes her an angel. Wear a condom at least; if you really think you are the 3rd man she ever slept with than you are really only thinking with your dick. 1
VeronicaRoss Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 If this were your fiancee and he was the friend, what would you want him to do right now? That's what you need to do, and what you need to stop doing. She is not anywhere near ready to get married, that is for sure. What is going on with the guy that he has a financee like that and a 'best friend' that thinks and acts like this? 1
bubbaganoosh Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 If I had a best friend like you and a fiance like her, I would join a monastery. It's his fiance and you shouldn't be texting her in any way let alone talking about sliding between her legs and her giving you the come on and she should have taken her engagement a little more seriously. Maybe you don't understand this but how would you feel if your best friend did the same thing to you and your fiance was acting in the same manner she is. Wouldn't be a whole lot of fun would it? Honestly, between you and her, I don't know whose worse but I hope your best friend finds out before he goes walking down the aisle with that train wreck of a fiance and his best friend. This reminds me of that show where security cameras were set up and catching people doing stupid things and one of these cameras caught the bride giving a BJ to the best man outside of the reception hall.
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I would laugh so hard if this is actually the "best friend" logged onto her facebook account sending these messages, and he is waiting in her flat on saturday night with a baseball bat. To play some baseball of course, not flatten your face - that wouldn't be funny at all. Very serious. Violence does not solve anything. 4
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 He cheats on her all the time...just thought I'd throw that in for info. This might sound bad but the fact that nobody thinks I should do it makes it that much better lol C'mon if he wasn't my best friend and i didn't know the guy you would all say do it and walk away.
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Do you care about your buddy at all? If so tell him that his FI can't be trusted & that you intend to have sex with her. How can you possibly want to sleep with the girl he plans to MARRY & still call yourself his friend? I am a harmless flirt. This girl is not. While I may tell a friend's guy that he is sexy, I would never set up a time to be alone with him. She is engaged & setting up a rendezvous. Big time no no. Single unattached people can make their own choices but people who are in exclusive relationships need to keep their promises & especially their vows. Your buddy is in for a world of hurt if he marries this girl. Before you go off & have your fun think about how you would feel if the situation was reversed.
gaius Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 If shes talking junk with you in front of him and saying right to his face she'd have sex with you if given the chance then he's basically giving you guys permission by not doing anything about it. Have fun on saturday. And if you ever feel a twinge of guilt just remember he's a guy and would have your girlfriend in a second if he could.
stillafool Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Whatever you decide to do, just stop calling this guy your friend. You are not his friend. 2
Madman81 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 He cheats on her all the time...just thought I'd throw that in for info. This might sound bad but the fact that nobody thinks I should do it makes it that much better lol C'mon if he wasn't my best friend and i didn't know the guy you would all say do it and walk away. This info, while interesting, is irrelevant. It really comes down to a choice. Which do you value more: your friendship with your best friend (to use your term), or an opportunity to pork his fiancee? Because the simple fact is that you can't have both. If you do bang her, your friend will probably find out eventually. And then you'll lose your friend. And what will you have gained? An opportunity or two to get your d!ck wet. Or at most, a GF who you know can't be trusted to keep her legs together around guys other than her BF. I'm pretty sure you don't need a slide rule to figure out the best course of action here. 4
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 I just told him that I am going to do it. Sent him the convo and everything. He ain't happy at all about it. He talked to her and said he is giving her a hall pass to be with me this weekend. Told ya we were best friends!
stillafool Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Oh goodie, goodie! Now when you get a fiancee he can just help himself to her. Hope you are this happy then! Enjoy!
Author lan15 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 nah I don't share...apparently he does. Known him for 20 years. Wish I had this info earlier haha
Chi townD Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Okay folks! We've been chasing after bunnies! Okay, Ian! All's right in your universe. Have a good one. Solved your own problem. Be well. Later! 1
Darren Steez Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Dear god I'm surprised anybody bought this. :bunny: 1
Madman81 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I'm not surprised (seeing as I bought it), but a tad disappointed in myself. Ahh well... onward and upward. 2
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