keyanasmommy Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year. We live together our relationship hasn't really been easy we've hit some rough spots. Things has been going really good until today. When we first started dating he used to go around my friends and family and I went around his. Now its a different story. He doesnt go around my friends or family he refuses to. When my mom or anyone come over to visit he stays up stairs until they leave. If I mention a friends is coming over he leaves and doesnt come back until they leave. I dont go around his friends and family either he doesnt take me around them. Ive talked to him a million times about this but he doesnt seem to either not understand, care or even wanna listen. Are relationships supposed to be like this. What would be the best thing to do in this situation?
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Any special reasons he doesn't want to be around your family? History of disputes with them?
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Need more info! I've dated girls in the past that had family members that were true mental cases (diagnosed lol) so I can relate to the whole "not wanting to be around family thing" in certain cases. But still need more details, OP.
soccerrprp Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 OP, I think there are issues here.... 1. It's one thing for him to avoid your family. That is, if he finds something objectionable about them. BUT, he also doesn't bring you to his family. So, it's not just something about your family. 2. You both used to hang out with each other's family members, but now no. Such a dramatic change is a sign that he's looked at this relationship in a different light or HE IS going through something outside of the relationship. Depressed? Did anything happen?
ktya Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 A few of my exes were like this and it drove me nuts. Granted for important family things they would oblige but like if my parents came down for a short visit she would go and see a friend. A few of my exes would hide like yours whenever I had a friend over. On the surface I didnt mind because I figured it gave her time to do her own thing but then when I would get bitched at on another day about how we dont spend time together and I am seeing my friends all the time it got pretty old pretty fast. My most recent ex would leave the room when I would be sitting in the living room chatting with a roomate. Later confided she hated him so bad she wanted to kill him and she was jealous of the time he spent with me because she wanted me to spend time with her. Despite living in the same house and with tons of living room seating she refused to simply join us. Drove me insane. Drove her insane too actually, I had to tell her to check into the hospital because she started talking suicide. (Depression) Have a chat about why he is isolating himself and how in a normal relationship couples intermingle with family and friends. If you understand, work with him on it, if it makes no sense, walk away.
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