faithfully Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 This is more of a curiosity than anything. I don't want my ex back and I am certainly he doesn't want me back not that I am 100% or not but he if did he would have told me but I wouldn't know as I am in NC. but I don't care. Just wanting to know how many people have been in NC. When I say NC I mean like over 3months mark or longer?? And how your coping I have been in NC for 4months now. Last time I heard from him was when he messaged me merry xmas and with a short reply from myself- you too. Like I said I am not wanting him back nor want to be in a relationship with anybody right now. Just been curious how many people are in my shoes with the NC 1
Lalasita Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I'm doing NC for half a year, but I was the dumper
offcloudnine Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I've been NC on and off over the past half a year and most recently it has been a month and a half of NC. I say on and off because I've been keeping NC but she (the dumper) would contact me on occasion for nothing of substance - last time we spoke she told me she missed me and wanted to meet up only to cancel shortly after. I haven't initiated contact or spoke to her since. On how I am doing, I've been doing quite well emotionally up until most recently where I feel like I've been hit by a relapse of emotions from the break-up (it was not mutual). I'm sure it'll pass in time but what's more important is that I've come to accept the break up and being single as my reality.
Hope737 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I did 11 months of NC. Not a single word from either of us. It was EXTREMELY difficult to begin with, especially as we work for the same company. A few awkward glances exchanged and ignoring eachother etc. Not very pleasant when you think at one point she was the love of my life and best friend. My best friend of 10 years and it all comes down to ignoring eachother, horrible. Anyway NC was broken just a few days ago. 11 months of NC broken. She approached me and just came out with it and asked directly why I had chosen to go no contact. It was the end of the working day so we walked to the car park together and chatted along the way. I explained that I needed time to get over her and needed to recover. After we spoke about the serious stuff we were laughing like we used to, absolutely amazing to have her back in my life, even if it was just for a short walk to our cars. In many ways it was incredible to talk to her again, I've missed her so much. BUT it has dug up a lot of old feelings that I was on the road to burying. I feel like I've started all over again now. In many ways, I couldn't avoid her that day as she approached me directly. What I'm trying to say is, do not break no contact. Yes it's very difficult and a long road, but it gets WORSE if you do talk to them again. You just end up wanting them so badly.
Audieme Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 NC since December 27 2013 (after 5 year relationship). I was the dumper and initiated NC (blocked his calls/texts/emails). First 30 days were excruciating. During this time he called my work phone and left VMs, but I immediately deleted them without listening to them. Second 30 days were actually OK. No more VMs from him. These past 30+ days have been a mix of good and bad. I still miss him dearly...well, I miss the fond memories. After NUMEROUS failed attempts at NC within the past 2 years, this time I'm hanging on to NC for dear life.
elseaacych Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Dumpee. 3.25 year relationship. He broke it off 4 months ago. I went NC immediately. (Yay, did something right!) Then finally the breakup hit maybe 2 months ago, and I had two short conversations with him a month ago, which I instigated out of loneliness. Small talk, basically. It sucked because I still have feelings for him that he will not reciprocate. Anyway, it's getting better, I think...
melell Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 7+ years together, dumpee turned dumper. Ex came back about 2 months after bu trying to reconcile. Around 10 months nc? I am not 100% sure. No desire to talk again, very happy now compared to the last year together.
realfriends Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 4-5 months NC. Cant really remember and dont feel like looking it up. 4.5 year relationship. Dumpee. Have made it pass all the holidays and just recently her birthday. Smooth sailing from here on out. Healing process is going very well. I still think about her but it no longer consumes me.
flightplan Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 4 months + and counting. I'm starting to feel good... feelings of indifference are coming more often now. It's not a straight line shot by any means, up and down days, but more up than down. Keeping busy and not thinking about her much except when I go to bed at night. I can't imagine reaching out to her now. It feels like I'm forgetting who she was, which is a good thing. 1
maturityassets Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 8 months. Haven't heard a thing nor do I expect to
Trovador Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Years, like 3 and a half (I don't count though, it's just because that was the time I signed up) ... didn't go back... she found me somehow, sometime, and asked subtly for another round, but this train had departed a long time ago... No regrets at all... 1
Author faithfully Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Thanks to all that comment, really appreciate it guys. Thank you Its amazing everyones input, very interesting thing to read. Please keep em coming
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