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I'm 24 and she's 22. We dated for just under 2 months and got a long really well and decided to be exclusive. 2 weeks later, she said we felt more like friends.

 

She said the reasoning for this was we never had serious conversations or proper debates, said we were too similar. Now, I haven't had a lot of relationships but surely the first 2 months are supposed to be fun, we got to know a bit about each other and we have a lot in common so mainly talked about our interests.

 

We had a lot of different dates which were fun and like I say got to know each other and I wanted to keep things light hearted. Surely the early parts of a relationship should be getting to know each other slowly talk about interests and go into the more emotional and serious side later?

 

She's never had a relationship over 3 months (mines 5 months) so we've both never been in a long term relationship, I'm wondering what I could have done wrong?

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Who knows why,more info needed. Did you kiss her? Did you made love to her or something like that?

 

Maybe you acted more like a platonic friend than a lover.

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Kissed in the first date having sex from the 6th.

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It's not your fault, don't beat yourself to hard. It happens. Keep dating until you find the right girl for you.

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Thanks, just for some reason I just keep thinking if I'd opened up more or been more serious then she'd still be with me now. I was just trying to be cautious and take things slow.

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Hey mate,

 

Don't stress too much about this. The best relationships, even those that end, start off effortlessly and it feels like two long lost friends meeting after a life time apart. These are the ones you want, the ones you should look for. If you fell the need to guard your emotions because you don't want to rush things or she wants you to divulge information too soon then it may be a sign that you might not be on that wave length you need to be on to have an amazing time together.

 

You should not worry about dating some one in my honest opinion. Love isn't a eight step process where you tick boxes on the path to success, it is about falling in love. If this is not happening bail, especially at 24.

 

If a girl who you are in to does not want to siton the couch with a bottle of cheap red, ice cream and a full season of Game of Thrones in the first few months but needs to have 6 dates and a heart to heart to get to know you intimately, she is not worth your time. You are the bloody prize here. You have to think like that.

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Cheers Breadimus. I suppose it's normal to feel like this straight after, the what ifs etc.

 

One of her reasons was she lost attraction and felt there was no spark. Not a lot I can do about that really. For me if you're attracted and you get on well and have a laugh then great, but for women it must be different. Lesson learned I suppose.

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