the-man Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 hi I've been talking to my crush for 2 and half years (most of the time on facebook and almost every day ) but never had the courage to confess my feeling about her…after 2 years of knowing her i noticed a change on the way she talk to me , she start to ignore me a bit , I was always the first one to start a convo (before she use to do) I felt loosing her so weeks a go I asked her to meet and told her we need to talk… and yes finally I did my Confession told her that I like her etc … at the begin her answer was not direct , at the begin she start giving some excuses like : I don't have time now for that ,I'm only thinking about my studies I answered her by saying that is not an excuse since we were talking for a long time during her studies… In other way she was avoiding the answer… then I told her what happen to you Why have u changed these days ?? she turn it back on me as I'm the one who have changed. till that moment I didn't had really wan answer. does she like me or not I couldn't wait so I asked her about her feeling on me and she said : I never had feeling I know I'm was not suppose to ask her that question and should have wait till she say it by her own … but I was not in control of myself it finished by a friendly hug … we still friends I'm really not sure if she was really honest with me or not I still have question without answers like : why she use to be nice with me before … knowing that she is the one who start talking to me first (years a go) is it because I've waited long time to confess ? and changed her mind ! now we are ignoring each other… I'm doing this to give us some space. I still want her !! but not sure if I'm suppose to talk to her again and how … how to get her touched again ( cuz I'm purity sure that she use to like me even if she didn't say it , I can tell ) PS: sorry for my bad English hope its clear
Lalasita Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Why do you need to talk to her if she rejected you? Move on find another crush. 2
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 at the begin she start giving some excuses like : I don't have time now for that ,I'm only thinking about my studies I answered her by saying that is not an excuse When she makes excuses she is trying to save your feelings. She is saying NO but she does not want to be hurtful by simply saying "no I don't find you attractive". So she makes these excuses. But you argue with her by rejecting her excuses... what do you think this will achieve? She has made her decision already. You are not helping. Dude she doesn't fancy you... if you can be friends then be friends. If not then don't. She is very unlikely to change her mind about being any more. 3
Lalasita Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 When she makes excuses she is trying to save your feelings. She is saying NO but she does not want to be hurtful by simply saying "no I don't find you attractive". So she makes these excuses. But you argue with her by rejecting her excuses... what do you think this will achieve? She has made her decision already. You are not helping. Dude she doesn't fancy you... if you can be friends then be friends. If not then don't. She is very unlikely to change her mind about being any more. The only reason the op would accept to be friends with this girl is that he still hopes she'll change her mind. But that won't happen.
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 You are right that it won't happen. But what's wrong with being friends (IF he can handle it)? Maybe she has a cute friend.
pinkstar Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Well why did you wait so long ? I'm a girl and I'm in this situation but the guy who acts exactly like you hasn't told me anything yet I still like him !! If he ever talks to me I will say yes !!! There are 2 possibilities : she doesn't like you , second : she liked u before but you didn't tell any thing she got frustrated Whatever it was , you should give her good reason for your delay of two years or use this experience and move on and don't put it off ( confess your feeling earlier than this ) in the next relationship 1
Author the-man Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 thx for the advices ill see what I will do whether being friends or not.
Author the-man Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 Well why did you wait so long ? I'm a girl and I'm in this situation but the guy who acts exactly like you hasn't told me anything yet I still like him !! If he ever talks to me I will say yes !!! There are 2 possibilities : she doesn't like you , second : she liked u before but you didn't tell any thing she got frustrated Whatever it was , you should give her good reason for your delay of two years or use this experience and move on and don't put it off ( confess your feeling earlier than this ) in the next relationship it's good to have advices from a girl ; however, my situation is in the second possibilities u mention … she used to like me before but now I think she is trying to move on so I got this rejection ! I also didn't chose the right moment to confess her (could have waited till the summer , less stress ) … she also said to me : I'm not 18 yeas old anymore. what that suppose to mean ? that she have chaged ?! … as a girl do u think there still a way to get her back … I mean for 2 years and half we use to chat every days hours and hours with lot of trust , I know everything about her life as she do … and suddenly it stopped , will she find it easy to stop it suddenly ? honestly why I have waited so long … I really don't know … I was keeping every thing inside
thecrucible Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think I'd be a bit shocked if suddenly a male friend told me he liked me after two years of being my friend. How come you didn't try and court her before? I always think it's better to try and seize the opportunity while it's there.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think I'd be a bit shocked if suddenly a male friend told me he liked me after two years of being my friend. How come you didn't try and court her before? I always think it's better to try and seize the opportunity while it's there. Yeah a better way instead of having a discussion of "I like you" would have been to ask her out on a date and drop some hints (i.e. you look sexy tonight; touch her) and see how she reacts.
thecrucible Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Yeah a better way instead of having a discussion of "I like you" would have been to ask her out on a date and drop some hints (i.e. you look sexy tonight; touch her) and see how she reacts. I agree. I think some guys think things will work like a movie...but really the whole confession of 'I like you' just puts the girl under pressure. Maybe it's just me but I'd personally rather someone just asked me on a date as I rarely turn people down and it's good to just get to know someone and see if there's a natural connection. All this being the person's friend first stuff just doesn't work. What if someone else gets there before you and asks her out? I had a close male friend at university. I really only saw him as a friend. I had a boyfriend for a whole year as I was getting to know him. When I broke up with my boyfriend, he was supportive and offered a shoulder to cry on but then tried to kiss me. This kind of shocked me because it made me feel our friendship had just been a farce the whole time and that he'd always had other intentions...I felt sort of used. I thought he was my friend. It felt like all the friendship he'd shown me was fake and just a carefully calculated scheme to get me Anyway, it has been awkward ever since and we don't speak anymore.
Author the-man Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 thx everyone for your concern and advices i appreciate that basically i only have 2 choses , whether not talk to her anymore or be friends, but since we still friends on FB and I might see her coincidentally, i'd rather be friend for that kind of situation lol and better than ignore each other face to face.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 thx everyone for your concern and advices i appreciate that basically i only have 2 choses , whether not talk to her anymore or be friends, but since we still friends on FB and I might see her coincidentally, i'd rather be friend for that kind of situation lol and better than ignore each other face to face. It's all good, man. If you go that route just be sure that you do NOT get attached or start to dream up fantasies that she's into you again. It will just be a waste of your energy.
Author the-man Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Ask her to fix you up with one of her friends. what do you mean ? didnt catch it !
Vero Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) I have a crush on a girl at my high school. She's on the track and field team just like me, but we literally never meet because she does field events and I do track events. It's very rare that I see her. Anyway, I decided to add her on snapchat and we've been snapchatting a fair bit the last few days. A bit of the snapshots she sent were exclusively to me about random things. I try not to go overboard with the snapchats as I don't want to come off as desperate. Anyway, today after track practice, I went on my phone to see that she sent me a snapchat. It was a picture of me and my track teammates about to go on a trail run outside the school. She took it while she was getting a ride home in a car. It's caption was"dass u" (that's you) lol. Anyway, I want to know if she's taking an interest in me but I don't have her phone number and I rarely see her at school or track practice! Advice? Thanks! Edited April 11, 2014 by Vero
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