TED the teddybear Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I’m pretty sure the answer is leave but it’s not the answer I want to hear, I am in love with this woman but her actions are becoming increasingly bizarre. We met online and have been dating for 3 years now. We clicked from day one and the relationship has been everything and more than I could have imagined. I find out now that a lot of what we have done is her having a competition of sorts with her sister. I know that sounds strange but I overheard a conversation between them and I am convinced. Apparently her sister has just had her first threesome with two guys. Yes they really do talk about this stuff!! They were talking about that and then were reminiscing about who did what first over the years. It seems that I was a first in many of these “contests”. Now I didn’t let her know that I overheard and really just put it to the back of my mind. A week later she starts telling me that we should try it with another guy. I am certain this is because her sister has done it. Now I probably would have said yes had I not heard the conversation but I can’t unhear it. Now I think I am just being used because I have been a willing partner over the last few years. I guess the question is to the women out there. Is competition between sisters, or just women in general, normal. Do/have any of you even competed like this? Right now I am confused as to whether or not this is a deal breaker. If it matters we are both in our 40’s and it’s not our first time on the dance floor.
Noproblem Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 No, it's not normal. You are both in your 40's I thought she was 19 or 20 So strange!
Author TED the teddybear Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 No, it's not normal. So strange! If I had never overheard the conversation I would just think I have an incredibly open woman that likes trying new things. I would be incredibly happy. But I did hear the conversation and now it feels as though we did certain things not because it was an adventure for us but because she either had to match her sister or do it before her. What I guess I am debating in myself is, does it really matter why? I am still enjoying all the benefits of this relationship regardless of underlying motives. I've known girls to be competitive so I thought maybe I was just out of the loop and they do compete on things like this. From the first reply I guess this is not the case.
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