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My girlfriend and i were going out for 6 months we really loved each other she is 16 i am 17, she is an immagrant to the country and she has been in the states from January of 2013 . she came her from the Dominican Republic. It all stated when one day after school we went to the bus stop were me and her wait for her bus..

 

Anyway her mother came walking down the street and saw us together she had no idea she was coming there when she came to us she said Hi and i said hi she dosent speak english and i dont speak spanish i was born in brooklyn my mother came from canada and my father came from jamaica he is family is Jamican Italian and african... im am a carmel complexion anyway everything was going fine that day till when i got home and she texted me and said "i told you"

 

I asked her what was wrong and she told me that her mother does not want her to be with me anymore because she dosent like black people she dosent know me and thought i was a drug dealer or some type of criminal i have never done anything bad in my life im a soft hearted guy on the inside i may look ruff on the outside but thats genetics. anyways she kept sying im sorry and stuff and was crying i talked her out of it and we went about our relationship a little less than a week later we sat down in the stairwell and she just started crying like very badly she told me she cant take this anymore she is suffering because of her mother she told me that she had hit her and stuff because she is with me she told me she loves me to death but she cant live like this i tried all of this because of the color of my skin.

 

I love her so much i cant stop thinking about her after that day i did what most boyfriends do and try to get her back constantly texing her telling her how much i love her and **** like that then she told me that family comes first and i also belive in that but its also her decission to be with me i would admit we do get into arguements over dumb **** somtimes but thats normal. i have never felt this way for a girl ever i just want her back is there anyway that i can proove to her mother that i really love her daughter and that the color of my skin shouldent matter but the love that we have for one another.

 

Btw, today we talked and we held eachother we cried together but i want our relationship to continue i love her alot and she loves me i know it i can see it in her eyes but she is scared of her mother what can i do i just want my queen back i feel empty without her i have done nothing to hurt her but she is suffering because of her mother its not me

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Her mother hit her for thinking her daughter was dating a drug dealer (because your black?)

 

Is this serious?

 

In any case, if you want to convince her mother your intentions are good, you must learn Spanish. Then you can make your case effectively to the mother.

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OK sweetie we get it you are very upset.

But to help you we need you to take all of this into nice readable columns.

Calm down and do it all over again and we'll take it from there its bad but we heard worse then this.

 

HUGS

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Check this out...here's a news flash for you...Dominican Republic people are black people. They have African ancestry in their blood.

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Well he changed a picture :p how about them apples.

But for some reason like 5 year old on playground insist on following me and tugging on my braids ?

I suppose I should be flattered and do what I wonder what yeah maybe pat him on a head and give him cookie?

Perhaps that will make his hands and mouth busy enough to freaking focus on something else then me.

 

Or better yet on reason we are here : helping people !!!!

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To the OP, keep your head up brother. What's meant to be will be. You're both so young, but that doesn't mean things can't work! Don't give up my friend, hopefully love will prevail. But if not, just wait til you two are 18, things can be different then once her mother has less of a grip. All hope is not lost.

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Well ?

You gonna help us help you ?

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I'm Indian - I was in a relationship with a white girl for 7 years, we were engaged and lived together for a year.

 

I loved my fiancée for her, and only her. Love from your parents usually comes from a good place, but should never come with conditions...it's not unconditional love anymore.

 

My family disowned me for being with her and sadly, she left me for another man 1 month ago. Since then I've reconnected with my family and they took me back in. Know that TRUE love doesn't care about race. Your partner's mother is trying to protect her but ultimately, it's your partner's faith in you that will determine whether she's good enough for you.

 

Ask yourself, would you walk away from your family for her? Because she's walking away from you for her family.

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. Know that TRUE love doesn't care about race. Your partner's mother is trying to protect her but ultimately, it's your partner's faith in you that will determine whether she's good enough for you.

 

This.

 

Your ex left you ultimately, and that was her decision. My first boyfriend was Vietnamese, and I'm white. His family hated that he was dating a white girl - they made it clear when I was around - and he eventually left me, and we'd been dating 2.5 years! That was entirely his choice, and it was a reflection of how he chose to react to family pressures. That was back in 2008 - he's since apologized for his rationale behind breaking up. We're friends now.

 

My boyfriend dated his ex for about 3 years, and he's agnostic while she was protestant. Her family hated his lack of faith, and so she ultimately broke up with him for it. Again, that's a reflection of her and her choices.

 

We've both moved on, and so will you!

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Hate to break it to you dude. Until she finds the strength to stand up to her mother, you don't stand a chance.

 

 

Again, I hate to say it, but I think you need to move on from this.

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Race shouldn't matter but some people are still prejudiced. Your GF's mom is narrow minded.

 

 

At 16 your GF can't defy her parents even when they are wrong.

 

 

If your parents are on your side, will they help you try to convince the mom that you are a good guy? Perhaps your parents could have hers over for dinner so that everyone can get to know each other. I'm not sure how you arrange that with the language barrier without putting your GF in the middle. . . I'm thinking a written invitation from your parents? Maybe a sympathetic teacher could intervened.

 

 

When you are both self supporting, you will be free to date whomever you want.

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Hate to break it to you dude. Until she finds the strength to stand up to her mother, you don't stand a chance.

 

 

Again, I hate to say it, but I think you need to move on from this.

I hate it, but Chi Townd is right. What Jiivy did took a lot of courage and strengh.

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