What about short men who are attracted to taller women?

[Trane]

Why is it considered creepy when a short guy is attracted to a taller woman? I'm a shade over 5'5 and I sometimes get the vibe from others that my natural attraction to taller women is abnormal. Outlawed by social customs so to speak.

 

The very thought of politely expressing my affinity for taller ladies seems to go along the lines of me being a freak or perv with a tall woman fetish. Am I only allowed to be attracted to ladies my height or shorter? Seems very restrictive. I treat tall women with the same respect and honesty that I do the short ladies so why is it creepy when a shorter guy likes a taller woman more than he does a shorter woman?

 

I would hate to think that I'm immediately brandished as creep just because of what turns me on in a lady. I like them all but prefer them tall. Is this wrong?

 

What do the ladies think about this? Thanks.

[gaius]

You're allowed to do whatever you want. But I think a lot of people will take you salivating over a woman who's larger than you as some kind of submissive trait. And a guy who's submissive rubs a lot of people the wrong way.

[Stay_Gold]

HAHA...I am so glad you posted this!!

 

I am in the SAME EXACT BOAT as you my friend. Male and 5'5".

 

I am attracted to ALL TYPES of women...short, my height or taller than me. I tend to like the taller ones more though.

 

I dated a stripper a while back that was about 1-2 inches taller than me. She didn't mind and neither did I...so it was kool.

 

MY BIGGEST PROBLEM NOW: I am nearing 31 and the idea of having children is very strong.

 

I am getting this BIG NOTION/THEORY that height/tallness comes from the maternal/female side...so I am now VERY MUCH attracted to taller women because...

 

I have always been teased for being short and have always been jealous of tall people. I don't want my kids to suffer the same fate as me and I want them to grow up to be taller than me. So...if its true that tallness comes from the female side...I would very much like to attract and keep a women that is a tall as can be for me...in hopes of having children that will grow up to be tall.

 

Any short guys here feel the same way and want to marry a tall women in hopes of having tall children?

[Avulare]

^ Several coding regions pertaining to adult height have been identified on the Y sex chromosome. That's why women with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome (who have XY sex chromosomes) tend to be taller than XX women. There are height-related genes on other chromosomes as well, though.

[Stay_Gold]

I also forgot to mention that I also get the creep/pervert look thing from friends and people when they see that I am attracted or talking to a women that is taller than me. I HATE IT and it absolutely drives me insane. Why are some people so mean and close minded!?!?!

 

I am in "NO WAY" a "submissive" type person. I don't get why people would automatically conclude that you are submissive/feminine just because the woman you are attracted/talking to is taller than you.

[Stay_Gold]

^ Several coding regions pertaining to adult height have been identified on the Y sex chromosome. That's why women with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome (who have XY sex chromosomes) tend to be taller than XX women. There are height-related genes on other chromosomes as well, though.

 

I have to apologize but...I am in no where near being a scientist/doctor/nurse/professor...HAHA LOL =)

 

Please explain in layman's terms if you can...Thanks.

[Candy_Pants]

I don't think it's creepy. I find all heights of women to be attractive, but long thin legs do something....EXTRA special to me.

[Trane]

You're allowed to do whatever you want. But I think a lot of people will take you salivating over a woman who's larger than you as some kind of submissive trait. And a guy who's submissive rubs a lot of people the wrong way.

 

I would think that any guy salivating over a woman would make her want to run to the hills, unless she herself is turned by the wake of drool!

 

I wonder if people share the same viewpoints if it was a taller woman in question who likes a shorter guy? Would she, being taller than him make her immediately the dominant one? For me it honestly has nothing do to with who's the dominant/submissive one in the equation. When those words are used, that's when I start to believe there is some kind of fetish aspect involved in the attraction. That I know turns many people off.

 

I guess those who can't ignore ancient height traditions or dated social customs have difficulties accepting the reality that tall women and short men can be attracted to each other without the fetish stuff. I personally don't mind it when a taller woman has a harmless fetish for shorter guys. I welcome it. It's good to know that some women are attracted to the smaller guys considering what's been historically said about short men and height.

 

Still I have to ask, why can't it be honest and genuine if a shorter man likes a taller woman and her interested in him?

[Trane]

I don't think it's creepy. I find all heights of women to be attractive, but long thin legs do something....EXTRA special to me.

 

I find all heights of women to be attractive too! Tall ladies I'm attracted to the most though.

 

LOL You like long thin legs? I like long thick, strong legs. Diamond-cut calves on a tall woman make me weak all over!

[melell]

This is an interesting topic, I am very attracted to males the same height, or a little shorter than me- just smaller in general. People have judged me for this, taller guys especially don't like to see the mix.

 

I think a lot of guys relate height to their desirability- ie being 6'2 makes them more attractive than 5'5, they like to put shorter guys down to assert that mentality. Pathetic really.

 

Interestingly I have never had this judgment from average height females ever, not one judgement, but alpha type males, and taller females, for sure. I put it down to insecurity/shallow sources of validation.

 

The people who will consider you a 'creep' for your preferences, imo, are not the people whose opinions you want to worry about

[dragon_fly_7]

I guess I'm in the minority regarding women's preference. I've always had this thing for average or shorter guys. For instance, practically all of my old crushes (from grade to HS) were either a couple inches shorter or slightly taller.

 

My ex bf was and the only I've been with was 5'7 1/2 while I'm 5'7.

 

I don't know but I don't find an 6'6 man my cup of tea. Saw a very huge 7+ ft guy a while back at a supermarket and I was disgusted. I think I've always had such weird taste.

Edited April 9, 2014 by dragon_fly_7

[Trane]

This is an interesting topic, I am very attracted to males the same height, or a little shorter than me- just smaller in general. People have judged me for this, taller guys especially don't like to see the mix.

 

I think a lot of guys relate height to their desirability- ie being 6'2 makes them more attractive than 5'5, they like to put shorter guys down to assert that mentality. Pathetic really.

 

Interestingly I have never had this judgment from average height females ever, not one judgement, but alpha type males, and taller females, for sure. I put it down to insecurity/shallow sources of validation.

 

The people who will consider you a 'creep' for your preferences, imo, are not the people whose opinions you want to worry about

 

Thanx.

 

I believe short-man-syndrome or Napoleon syndrome is an excuse by tall people who need to hide their insecurities against short people who achieve. When have you ever heard a short person use these terms? Rarely if ever. These word are almost always a product of a taller persons inferiority complex.

[Trane]

I guess I'm in the minority regarding women's preference. I've always had this thing for average or shorter guys. For instance, practically all of my old crushes (from grade to HS) were either a couple inches shorter or slightly taller.

 

My ex bf was and the only I've been with was 5'7 1/2 while I'm 5'7.

 

I don't know but I don't find an 6'6 man my cup of tea. Saw a very huge 7+ ft guy a while back at a supermarket and I was disgusted. I think I've always had such weird taste.

 

Your tastes aren't weird. According to who's standards are they weird?

 

You just failed to be a typical cookie in the dating world and dared to be a little different. Good for you!

[Valen]

I like to think height is relative. For instance, if she is sitting I'm taller.

[ascendotum]

I also forgot to mention that I also get the creep/pervert look thing from friends and people when they see that I am attracted or talking to a women that is taller than me. I HATE IT and it absolutely drives me insane. Why are some people so mean and close minded!?!?!

 

I am in "NO WAY" a "submissive" type person. I don't get why people would automatically conclude that you are submissive/feminine just because the woman you are attracted/talking to is taller than you.

 

Is this 'creep' effect coming from other guys or other women or the taller women you chat up?

I can assume its due to the fact that its a little irregular in terms of a pairing. I find some people seem to get upset when a couple is not conventional, like its going against the natural order of selection or people should stick to their league/type. A women being taller than me does not diminish her attractiveness. If there was a big gap though I would expect smartarse comments from others (more so guys), as I have witnessed that over the years where the guy is with a taller woman.

 

Good luck on finding your taller wife (not being a smartarse). I know some short women chase after tall guys for the sake of their kids inheriting that trait (well at least to offset her genes).

Edited April 9, 2014 by ascendotum

[peruano99]

You are free to like whoever you like without fear of being judge. It's your life dude.

[topaMAXX]

Why is it considered creepy when a short guy is attracted to a taller woman? I'm a shade over 5'5 and I sometimes get the vibe from others that my natural attraction to taller women is abnormal. Outlawed by social customs so to speak.

 

The very thought of politely expressing my affinity for taller ladies seems to go along the lines of me being a freak or perv with a tall woman fetish. Am I only allowed to be attracted to ladies my height or shorter? Seems very restrictive. I treat tall women with the same respect and honesty that I do the short ladies so why is it creepy when a shorter guy likes a taller woman more than he does a shorter woman?

 

I would hate to think that I'm immediately brandished as creep just because of what turns me on in a lady. I like them all but prefer them tall. Is this wrong?

 

What do the ladies think about this? Thanks.

 

I'm 5'6 and I've dated taller women before. Never heard anything about it from anybody.

 

I prefer very short girls though (in the 4'10-5'2 range). So those are the girls that I mostly go for.

[Tressugar]

Oh is that what's going on?! I was wondering why most short men are attracted to me.

[Trane]

Oh is that what's going on?! I was wondering why most short men are attracted to me.

 

Hahahaha! Do I detect a bit of playful sarcasm? Just curious, how tall are you and does it bother you that guys shorter than you show interest? Do you take on the role of the dominant personality in the relationship equation after you've accepted his advances?

 

I like to believe that there are taller ladies who are more accepting of shorter guys and welcome the opportunity for a date. I know I sure do when a taller woman shows me she's interested.

[Trane]

You are free to like whoever you like without fear of being judge. It's your life dude.

 

Exactly! Thank-you!

 

It's been hard to grasp this at times because peer pressure forces you to conform somewhat to the normalcy of the traditional looking couple. I asked out and dated shorter girls when I was attracted to taller girls that much more.

 

Now, I approach the taller girls who give me the look in their eyes that they want me to approach. The hope for me is that there's a tall girl who's attracted to shorter guys or doesn't make height the here all end all of the relationship.

 

There hasn't been a whole lot of tall women that I can speak successfully of in dating because lots of them want the taller guys themselves. It's the high heels thing and still needing him to be taller when she's wearing them. Western culture also made it clear many times over that the obvious rejection was staring me in the face if I tried. I definitely avoided some taller women that I wish I didn't.