Mommame2 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 For those of you who think I have reality show. You are right. One of the previous guys I dated and nearly slept with... I told him I wanted exclusive for sex he didn't.. Anyway I just saw on FB that he joined my boutique fitness place. He knows I go there. I am friends with the owner. It is like 20 people Max. He posted in FB today that he joined there. And that he's going to be going to my class. What should I do? I don't want to see him. Should I message him and ask him when he goes so we can avoid each other? I can't believe this. It's MY place.
Chocolat Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I know how frustrating this is but I don't think you should message him. You don't own the rights to who attends the studio or any particular class and contacting him will just let him know he's under your skin and, odds are, not deter him from attending. Then you'll have a double whammy to deal with - that he's in the class AND that he knows you're bugged by it.
Fondue Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Be professional/adult and don't let it bother you. You don't own the rights to that place. Unless you plan to rent out the class entirely for yourself, I don't think you have reason to be upset. Besides, what kind of ex is this if you only dated without sex? It leads me to believe he was a simple romantic interest that things did work out with. Were you really that invested?
thecrucible Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Just play it cool. Pretend you don't notice him. Don't let him know it bothers you. 2
Author Mommame2 Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 We are "friends" on FB. So when he posted it... To rub it in. I just liked it. So I will try to avoid it. Just sucks ! Now I have to worry about what I look like !
Gaeta Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 We are "friends" on FB. So when he posted it... To rub it in. I just liked it. So I will try to avoid it. Just sucks ! Now I have to worry about what I look like ! You're ok with having him on your FB but not seeing him occasionally in real life? hhmm. And why would you need to worry about what you look like, it's over, you don't have to be cute for him.
thecrucible Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Now I have to worry about what I look like ! Look confident and hot and flirt with other guys so he knows what he's missing. hehe only kidding kinda...best to just get on with things 'cause the worrying that you'll bump into him will make it worse.
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Are you both rational adults? If so, since you are FB friends, PM him. Tell him when you work out & that you would appreciate it if he took any other classes. If you think that will make him come to your class, don't say anything but do prep yourself for being polite but cool when you see him.
ja123 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) Perhaps he's toying with the idea of being around you so he can get into you. (Yes, "toying" and "into" are intentional.) You're a challenge now and he's chasing. Just ignore ... With this type, once you're no longer a challenge then he'll no longer be interested. Whatever you do, don't go out of your way to be especially cute, if you mean business. Yawn, burp, blow snot outta your nose, just do anything to put him off the scent. That's if you're serious about not being with a player. 'Cause, he's got player written all over him. Edited April 9, 2014 by ja123 1
Emilia Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 You're ok with having him on your FB but not seeing him occasionally in real life? hhmm. And why would you need to worry about what you look like, it's over, you don't have to be cute for him. Spot on. OP, if you don't want the drama, take him off facebook and change your class. He won't bother you again.
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