Author luvflower Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 In general when people seek advice on a forum about a relationship then list the flaws 90% of the time the advice is going to be to just leave. More than likely if your flaws/downsides were listed here by him people would be telling him he needs to leave you too. Not saying I think you should stay with him just saying keep that in mind. Yep. I'm sure that's the case. I know that the situation is not the best to be in,I'm just thinking through how I'm going to cope once I decide to distance myself from him. I know that I'm going to go through either a depression or something. I'm not sure how ready I am to make that transition.
Author luvflower Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 ...so LS, it's at the point where we are splitting. we'll both be moving to our separate places this weekend. this though, is per my suggestion a while ago. after several instances of him blowing up at me for voicing my concerns, i felt that following through with splitting is a must. i'd been looking for a spot for a while and once he saw how serious i was he found a place as well. so, actually left about a month ago but he asked me to come back after a week so i did...regretfully... i knew there would be discord & "hell to pay" ... he's bitter and has never forgiven me for leaving him that week and says that i should've never left... i say i should've never gone back to him. he's been distant and keeps throwing in my face that we're moving to different places and that it's what "i" wanted. yes to avoid all the drama and taking one another for granted. we tried 2 sessions of counseling and he said he'd never go back. and he hasnt. so we've grown apart in some ways and in some ways not.nevertheless, we are moving this weekend. i'm sad and content at the same time. does that make sense? he has a lot of pride and expresses his feelings every now and then when we start talking or he sees my sincere expressions. because of that i'm convinced that he is very bitter and even said last night that he's still angry because this is not how he invisioned us being. i suggested we move, yes! but he said if we move then we may as well break up. then he keeps going back and forth saying how he still wants to see me then he gets in his feelings and starts saying how we don't need to see one another. is there any ther effort i should put forth to make him see that just because we're moving to different apts doesn't mean i don't love him anymore?
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