Volthi10 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 My ex and I had broken up late last year and Long story short, I did the whole begging, pleading, etc...until I gave up and realized he was done with me. We had alot of issues, fought alot, mostly me starting nonsense fights, he feeling i was clingy and didnt give him the space he needed and mostly was true. I was sick, I was traumatized by my previous relationships and very codependent of him. I had trust issues and let that ruin alot of our relationship. I let him be and eventually he let me be, we stopped texting for a while. Weeks went by before I knew anything about him, I met some people and changed alot of my ways to be a better person, l mostly learned to be on my own, no relationship. Six months since we broke up and one day he begins texting me and blowing up my phone. I ignore him for my own sake, next thing i know I get home and he was there. Its been a month now since he's been back and we hang out, he stays at my place almost everyday, we do things that we used to, go out, etc.. but we had a conversation in which he stated he is not sure of what he wants at this point. we haven't talked about it much lately. He loves me but cant label us as being in a relationship. I am a bit confused. I have given him ALOT of space, I dont rush into anything because I myself am trying to figure what is best for us. I love him so much, as much as before but I don't want to be played and feel stupid for giving him my all without the commitment. Any imput is greatly appreciated. Anybody been in something similar.
mangetout Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Yes! He is still into you, go NC and he will come running 1
mangetout Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Cut all ties with him and make him feel like you are no longer available. He will think it was a mistake. I see classic signs of this but you must go NC first! 1
Trovador Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I don't know how to say this... he "owns" you... (meaning he is the master, the chief, the boss... get it?)... he knows he got a hold on you, he knows it, you know it... he likes it, you like it... otherwise you wouldn't have let him to put a foot inside your home... he is using you and for all I see in your post, you are fine with that... Is that what you want? To be a fwb at the best...? Because reading between the lines I find a "booty call" scenario in there... Anyway, it's you who has to ask yourself what do you really want? Seeing how are you not happy with the situation at hand, grow some character and kick him out of your life.. 1
elseaacych Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 If you love him, you may as well give him the marriage ultimatum. "Do you want me back bad enough to get married to me and stay married to me?" If yes, you'd better be ready to hold him to it. If the answer is no, cut him off. NC. Never look back. Love yourself and be awesome. 1
Author Volthi10 Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 I don't know how to say this... he "owns" you... (meaning he is the master, the chief, the boss... get it?)... he knows he got a hold on you, he knows it, you know it... he likes it, you like it... otherwise you wouldn't have let him to put a foot inside your home... he is using you and for all I see in your post, you are fine with that... Yeah all you guys have a lot of truth in your words. I am blinding myself into hoping he will change. I have a lot of thinking and decision making to do. :*(
OzHeartache Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Is that what you want? To be a fwb at the best...? Because reading between the lines I find a "booty call" scenario in there... . Gotta admit this is exactly my first thought too, be careful here
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