HappyxFaith Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 My ex recently broke up with me in our long distance relationship (we had 4 months left). And I came back to this post and I wonder if it is GIGS? First question: He is 24 years old, and he like my previous ex told me that before they met me, they felt like the world was so grey, and so empty, and they didn't know what they were living for, and the both of them have said through dating me, they felt like I became there sunshine and lit up the world for them. Made them feel something amazing. - Is that usually a sign that I should avoid dating the person because of their emotional immaturity? Now that I think about it, shouldn't someone be whole first in order to create a committed relationship? Second: So my recent ex and I dated for a little over a year (and had 4 months of LDR before he broke up with me, I know this is different from the 2-4 year mark) But he's only dated once before me, and it was a really unhealthy and destructive relationship. And a couple of weeks before we broke up, he told me that he doesn't really feel any "physical attraction" for me and loves me like a sister or a best friend, but we talked about that, and figured it out together. And he proceeded to tell me that he still really wants to be with me, because he felt like his motivation and sunshine would be gone from his life. And we were fine for two weeks. Now fast forward, and he suddenly ONE DAY stopped replying to me and acted really cold in ONE DAY. And then it took him TWO DAYS to decide that he wanted to break up with me. And he said that he had good feelings for me, and that i was a great girl, and that he was really comfortable with me, but he loved me like a sister or a friend. And he said he felt like something was missing, that it wasn't me, but something inside his mind. That this was really difficult for him, and he said he just didn't know if he could give me so much love and effort that I was giving him. And so I asked him if he wanted to break up with me, and it took him a couple of minutes to nod (he didn't even say yes). And so I asked him why he said all of those sweet, loving things to me just recently, and he didn't know why, he just said he's sorry. And I know from his Facebook, that he's gotten close to some of his female coworkers. Mind you, I don't think he's doing anything destructive, but I do think he's attracted to one of them. I didn't ask though. But I knew because he was in a new job environment, away from me, and meeting new people, then he suddenly thought about committing to a relationship, and losing that freedom has become suddenly so scary. We dated for a year while he was in the US, and while he went back to his country after that, we were doing really well, (he went home and didn't see many people), but about two months ago he started a new job, in a new place, with new people. So do you guys think its GIGS? I mean I just don't think that all of a sudden one day in a happy relationship, you wake up, and everything has changed. Although he didn't say he loved me just wasn't "in" love with me (english isn't his first language) but I figured with him saying I love you like a best friend was pretty similar. (I know, long post!) There just seemed to be some overlap with my old relationship who did have GIGS BIG time.
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