Valen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Nooooo.... Just those people whom I have been kissing my entire life and will continue to kiss. Not "everyone." Sheeesh. Another over-reaction, don't-cha-think?!?! You telling me you won't be kissing your grandkids on the lips? That's what I was referring to. You going to be one of those grandma "OHHH come here you little cuties, grandma want to give you a big kiss!" Me: "AAAHHH Grandma, so gross!" I was so traumatized by it I hated kissing for a long time.
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 My goodness you people are over-reacting! Some of us women are major "peckers." I peck everybody; girlfriends, gayfriends, kids, friends. I just thank goodness I am with a man who is not remotely threatened by my overtly affectionate ways with friends. There is nothing sexual about it. I mean, no offense, but I hope none of them have herpes of the lips. Lol
serial muse Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 The fact that this dude may, or may not be gay is completely irrelevant. Kissing on the lips is for your romantic partner only. You get enough germs when kissing your partner, why invite a bunch of randoms germs in also? All the people that say it's perfectly normal are just asking for a lifetime of cold sores. Even the French don't kiss on the lips, and they literally kiss everyone they meet. You did the right thing making a semi big deal of it. At least she now knows your limits, and if she does it again, you can dump her with a clear conscience. Anyone that's grown up thinking this is normal behaviour, needs to have a word with their parents. Oh, let's not get judgy - for example, I might think that anyone who thinks popping off down to the pub while his partner's having a kid needs to have a talk with his parents too. But hey, we're all different. And there are probably other more effective ways of contracting herpes. But that's a thread for another time, or never. Anyway. I don't see the point in getting hysterical about what happened to the OP. He raised his objections, she acknowledged them and apologized. End of.
Valen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I mean, no offense, but I hope none of them have herpes of the lips. Lol Exactly why I think kissing on the lips type of greeting is so gross! Why risk picking up a disease and passing it along to love ones.
Author dbpullman Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 Isn't this thread about me . But seriously. Thanks for all the input. I guess I can make of this what I want...either a big deal or a one off thing that (hopefully) won't happen again. Seeing as how she apologized and acknowledged my feelings towards it, I can't hold it against her for TOO long. She's great otherwise. She's smart, funny, and makes me happy. Everything else she's done indicates she likes me a lot (other people have noticed). I've had my best mate tell me he hasn't seen me this happy with a girl in a long time. So, I think I'm going to let this one go... Thanks again! 1
soccerrprp Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 You really shouldn't be kissing children on the lips, including your own if you have any. This is how many people end with the herpes virus for life, especially if you're kissing a ton of other people also. Carry on your behaviour with other adults if you must, but don't be kissing children on the lips when they are unaware of the risks. Nonsense. So, no kissing your new born baby. No kissing your own kids. No kissing anyone under the age of 18. Let's not stop there, who know what other diseases could be passed around....no kissing period just to be safe....yah, right.
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Nonsense. So, no kissing your new born baby. No kissing your own kids. No kissing anyone under the age of 18. Let's not stop there, who know what other diseases could be passed around....no kissing period just to be safe....yah, right. It's all fun and games and nonsense until someone gets the herp's, then everyone goes the herp's. LOL
InnocentMan Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Nonsense. So, no kissing your new born baby. No kissing your own kids. No kissing anyone under the age of 18. Let's not stop there, who know what other diseases could be passed around....no kissing period just to be safe....yah, right. Why would you have the urge to kiss any child on the lips? Quite apart from the obvious herpes risk/germ issue, it's just plain weird. Perhaps I wasn't hugged enough as a child, but the thought of kissing anyone, aside from a romantic partner on the lips, just seems wrong to me. Even most prostitutes don't kiss on the lips, and they're having sex with you. A kiss on the top of the head for children, and a firm handshake for everyone else. I accept that some people are more touchy feely, but it's not for me. 1
Valen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I love hugs more than kisses. It feels so good. I'm only refering to hugging females of course because they are so soft and cushiny. It's like hugging a walking pillow.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Why would you have the urge to kiss any child on the lips? Quite apart from the obvious herpes risk/germ issue, it's just plain weird. Perhaps I wasn't hugged enough as a child, but the thought of kissing anyone, aside from a romantic partner on the lips, just seems wrong to me. The concept of spreading germs has new scientific basis that it might actually be good for children. Read here - clickety. I am sorry for those people who did not get enough affection as children to realize that demonstrations of love - outside of romance - is healthy. That is also scientifically proven. I was hugged and kissed as a child and don't live in such a phobic state to be worried about the spreading of diseases.
Author dbpullman Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 The concept of spreading germs has new scientific basis that it might actually be good for children. Read here - clickety. I am sorry for those people who did not get enough affection as children to realize that demonstrations of love - outside of romance - is healthy. That is also scientifically proven. I was hugged and kissed as a child and don't live in such a phobic state to be worried about the spreading of diseases. Agreed. I bit my nails growing up so definitely had more exposure than most to germs seeing as I had my hands in my mouth constantly. Fast forward to today, I get sick MAYBE once a year and it's awesome. Even when around others who are sick... Gotta build up them antibodies!!!
Keenly Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 The concept of spreading germs has new scientific basis that it might actually be good for children. Read here - clickety. I am sorry for those people who did not get enough affection as children to realize that demonstrations of love - outside of romance - is healthy. That is also scientifically proven. I was hugged and kissed as a child and don't live in such a phobic state to be worried about the spreading of diseases. Getting kind of judgmental for a minority opinion there, aren't we?
Valen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 The concept of spreading germs has new scientific basis that it might actually be good for children. Read here - clickety. I am sorry for those people who did not get enough affection as children to realize that demonstrations of love - outside of romance - is healthy. That is also scientifically proven. I was hugged and kissed as a child and don't live in such a phobic state to be worried about the spreading of diseases. Not concern about germs, only concern about disease. Herpes virus for example. If the doctor told you that you caught Herpes, are you going to keep kissing these kids on the mouth? Can't you just kiss them on the cheek? Or give them a hug? Why must it be on the lips?
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Why would you have the urge to kiss any child on the lips? Quite apart from the obvious herpes risk/germ issue, it's just plain weird. Perhaps I wasn't hugged enough as a child, but the thought of kissing anyone, aside from a romantic partner on the lips, just seems wrong to me. Even most prostitutes don't kiss on the lips, and they're having sex with you. A kiss on the top of the head for children, and a firm handshake for everyone else. I accept that some people are more touchy feely, but it's not for me. Reminds me of my friend and his wife. They have a 3 year old son that they kiss on the lips. Gives me the willies.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Suffice to say there are those for whom kissing is a joyful expression of love, affection and acceptance. And for others, it is an act which can produce feelings of jealousy, fear, or "the willies." I'll bow out of this thread as one for whom kissing is a lovely thing.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Suffice to say there are those for whom kissing is a joyful expression of love, affection and acceptance. And for others, it is an act which can produce feelings of jealousy, fear, or "the willies." I'll bow out of this thread as one for whom kissing is a lovely thing. I think kissing is great. But there's like 99% other surface area that can be kissed that isn't lips (or genitals lol). Dads kissing sons on the lips is just odd to me.
Keenly Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Suffice to say there are those for whom kissing is a joyful expression of love, affection and acceptance. And for others, it is an act which can produce feelings of jealousy, fear, or "the willies." I'll bow out of this thread as one for whom kissing is a lovely thing. I still find it odd that you think we are the weird ones when you have the extreme minority opinion here so far.
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