danny12 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 What do you guys think. Is this true for some of you??
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Unfortunately, yes. That is why it is particularly important to learn to live in the present and NEVER be complacent. A very hard lesson to learn but a powerful one if/when you master it. For me, those moments were defining ones and ultimately made me the woman I am today; I take absolutely NOTHING for granted and am abundantly grateful for everything and everyone I have in my life.
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 That goes for almost anything in life. We appreciate it more when it's not there. The challenge in all facets of life is to enjoy what you have an appreciate what you have - it may not last. As for a relationship - really give it some thought as to what it would be like without that person in it. Make yourself a better person to build a stronger relationship.
JamesM Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Yes, A girl/woman I dated who is now married with kids and grandkids...and is younger than me.... is the one who I wonder about. What would it have been like if I had not broken up with her? Where would the two of us be today? And yet....my wife is "better" than her IMO. Would I change what I have for her? No. And while I know she still "likes" me, I doubt she would either. My point is...you may think that there is one that got away, but in time "the one that got away" is not as good as the one you have. There was a reason I broke it off with her. It was a gut feeling that I just didn't have that super connection with her. I had it right away with my wife. So looking at her, I may wonder, but in my mind, I know. She was a great catch and a perfect wife (in some ways better than mine), but the two of us would probably be not as compatible as she is with her husband and me with my wife.
KathyM Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 A lot of people take their partner for granted, or don't appreciate them enough until he/she leaves. I think it's helpful to remind yourself of all the good qualities your partner has on a daily basis so you don't lose sight of the positives. Of course, some people are not meant to be together and there are major issues/characteristics that make them incompatible, so a person needs to be honest with himself about that as well.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 What do you guys think. Is this true for some of you?? Yep! At the time I thought he was good now I know he's horrific I'm glad I know what I had is gone 1
soccerrprp Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 (edited) Okay, needed to rethink that. Yes, oftentimes that distance is needed for someone to OBJECTIVELY see who or what they were with good or bad. But, i think it applies more to when one has lost something good. Edited April 8, 2014 by soccerrprp
Valen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I find the opposite to be more true. When my ex left me for another guy. I thought I lost something special. I wanted her back so bad. I thought I did something wrong to deserve this. But now looking back, I'm glad she left. I care more about her than she did about me. I made more effort to keep our relationship going than she did. She fell for this jerk who dump her later. I thought she was pretty back then but now I don't' know what I see in her. She was pretty selfish but I didn't see her flaws because I was too in love. That's the problem. We think we lost something great when we are blinded by love. But once those feelings are gone and we can objectively judge. They are not as great as you think. In fact we weren't compatible in the first place. I'm glad things didn't work out. Losing them allow me to see the truth.
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 No, not necessarily. For some people sure. For me, I tend to appreciate and love what I have and never take it for granted. Whether it's friendships or relationships, I always make sure that the people I care for know how much I appreciate them, and treat them with respect so that there's a better chance of them sticking around in my life.
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