Gaeta Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Hello everyone, I went a on a date with a guy that I really like and it was nice, not perfect (it can never be perfect) but very nice Untrue, I have been on several perfect date. A date being perfect is a perception. If you are both into each other it won't matter if it rains over your picnic, it will perfect. So my question is: Why was it not perfect? we changed places and we were together for several hours, until almost 3 am in the morning and he still wanted to go somewhere else and be with me but I ended it cos I was really tired. Translation: He was enjoying himself. After several hours, he kissed, very passionate also and many times, and after we left, he was holding my hands all the way until I got in a taxi. I told him that I am shy and shouldnt move too fast with me but that i like it anyway. The kissing is something you both felt at the moment. It's a demonstration of his attraction at that moment, it does not mean he views you as a long term girlfriend. Second point: You told him you did not want to move too fast, did you think that is why he keeps his communication spaced out? Do you want to take it slow or it's just something you say without realizing what it means? He complimented me many times Translation: He liked what he saw. Does not mean he sees you as a long term girlfriend. I sent him a short SMS when i reached home just to thank him et tell him that I arrived safely. He replies to me with an even longer SMS to tell me that it was a very enjoyable night indeed, but I did not reply. Translation: he enjoyed himself Then, he sent me an SMS in the evening, 2 days after in which he told me that everytime hes thinking about his days recently, the moment spent with me was the best. he wished me a good evening and gave me a lot of kisses. I replied, of course. What did you reply? He was fishing to see if you felt the same Since then, no other signs or calls and I am dying to see him again. it's been almost 2 days since his last text. (i know, it's not a lot but I really liked him and i freak out very quickly) Waiting to see what you replied to his last text.
Zahara Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 i wont definitely ask him out or suggest having a drink but i will send him maybe a text in which i will show him i'm interested .. if he asks me out great, if not, i let it go thank for your help anyway do not heistate if you have other ideas Ok, do what makes you feel comfortable. We can suggest but if it doesn't feel right for you then go by what works for you. And yes, what did you reply to his last text?
Author liove Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 (edited) Untrue, I have been on several perfect date. A date being perfect is a perception. If you are both into each other it won't matter if it rains over your picnic, it will perfect. So my question is: Why was it not perfect? it wasn't perfect because i think i made some mistakes, saying too much, or not enough, wasnt all the time myself, i was keen on bragging about myself etc ) in order to impress him and i even told him while joking/ in conclusion, i could have been a lot more fun, i am more fun is just that at that day i wasnt feeling ok, i was sick all the week, anyway...maybe it's just my perception and also he seemed sometimes too relaxed, maybe this is a bad sign no?! The kissing is something you both felt at the moment. It's a demonstration of his attraction at that moment, it does not mean he views you as a long term girlfriend. Second point: You told him you did not want to move too fast, did you think that is why he keeps his communication spaced out? Do you want to take it slow or it's just something you say without realizing what it means? it was a lot of kissing, and he told me that the more he kisses me, the more he wants to kiss me; but i was playing hard to get (not too much though coz i accepted his kisses) i told him to take it slow because since i am shy, the kissing AND the holding hands will shake me up and since i am sensitive i dont want to suffer or have irrealistic hopes Translation: He liked what he saw. Does not mean he sees you as a long term girlfriend. he was not complimenting me on the physical qualities / he seemed quite excited when he told me that he thinks i am really smart he was also excited when he learned that i like something that he likes a lot as well What did you reply? He was fishing to see if you felt the same Waiting to see what you replied to his last text. it was similar to his message, i told him that i also enjoyed a lot our moment together and i wish an excelent day and lots of kisses but it was more informal and more personal Edited April 8, 2014 by liove
Iguanna Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 It's so obvious. The OP wants to be taken seriously by this guy, she wants to show him that she is relationship / marriage material rather than an easy girl to have sex with and she is trying to do this with every rule and game plan she has read in cosmopolitan in her life. That's why she is so confused. She wants to advertise herself but not sound too arrogant. She wants to seem smart but not too dynamic in order not to scare him. She wants to kiss him but not that fast so she doesn't seem easy. She wants to text him but not ask him for a date in order not to show clingy. That's why we shouldn't follow idiotic rules in our relationships. This woman is trapped in cosmopolitan to-do or not-to-do rules. How scary. I know you won't listen to my advise, but I'll say it for the sake of it. Be yourself. Forget about the rules and the fear not to seem clingy / desperate / too available / too smart / too..... whatever. Just be yourself and act as you like. Even if you make him fall in love with you like this, you can't pretend forever. 1
Author liove Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) Iguanna, we're not talking about the girl here, we all know her self confidence problems later edit: ok, so we've exchanged texts (it was me who started it) and he replied to me very warmly and kind, he told me that he is busy but he thinks about me .but he did not tell me anything like he wants to see me again or smth like that.. i mean, if someone is interested they wanna see you even if they are busy no?! but in the same time, if he is not interested why would he continue being extremely cute and warm when he could just stop writing non?! does anyone understand this kind of behavior? is he playing or not? Edited April 9, 2014 by liove
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