DannyCA Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I have "seen" different women over the past year but it's safe to say I am actually dating a new girl (I have been broken up with my ex for more than a year now) so it's about time. But the thing I am having trouble with is the fact I still don't think I'm ready. Hell, IMO I don't think she is ready. She broke up with her ex a little over a month ago of four years. When I reflect on myself and think about what I want, a relationship is not what I want right now. Finishing school, starting my career, traveling, trying new things, and just having fun is what I want. So how would you approach a women that just got out of a long term relationship that is coming off like she wants to date you but you don't want to date them? I hate sounding like I'm just some womanizer trying to get with as many women as possible because I have never been that kind of guy. The thing is I can't invest emotionally in a new girl, the fact that my ex was my first love probably has something to do with that, but regardless I don't want to be in a serious relationship. I find myself afraid to emotionally invest in a new relationship, so I would rather be with women who want casual relations rather than serious ones. I know I probably sound like an a**, but Idk how to tell this new girl that I don't want a serious rs. I would prefer not to hurt her feelings. Even though we don't have the emotional bond of people who have been dating for awhile, I can still remember all too well how I felt when my ex came off cold and heartless towards me. I'm just not all too sure what to do.
Gaeta Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Just tell her with simple words and tell it like it is. You are not a bad man for not wanting a relationship and wanting to explore other aspects of your life. She may be disappointed but if you drag her along, that would be wrong, she will get attached and then you will hurt her. 3
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