janedoe67 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 You misunderstand. I've been living in the south the past 10 years. I seen some ****. I'm not even going so far as to say that the south is all racist. I'm saying that this whole, "I refuse to date outside my race under any circumstances" thing was borne of racist ideals. I've heard many a [white] girl say that her family (the father in particular) saying that they would not tolerate their dating a black male. And again, as someone who has "been living in the south" for way over 40 years, you ARE generalizing. I'll have to look up the sources, but the south is no longer the most racist region in America and hasn't been for quite some time. There are racists everywhere because stupidity is universal. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think the more "pure" your bloodine is, generally speaking, the more it matters...just a theory.. I am 100% Italian as is my child...Yes, as some other poster mentioned, Italian women are some of the most difficult women in the world...but only for the non Italian men...We relate just fine...Im sure its the same with blacks.. Speaking of blacks..In my life I have been heavily pursued by black women...I find them attractive in many ways, but I doubt id ever wind up in a LTR with one..Not because of racism, but the cultural differences might be too much to deal with.. To be honest, id love it for my daughter to find a 100% Italian man when the time comes for her to settle down..I wont frown on anyone she chooses, as long as he treats her properly, but I have to be honest here.. It does bug me when the people that are in mixed relationships immediately call everyone who isnt racists...Just not the case..Everyone has their preferences for the reasons they see fit...Its not their duty to propagate a heterogenous society for the sake of a cause...They have to live with that person...its up to them only... YMMV TFY 1
Emilia Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 It does bug me when the people that are in mixed relationships immediately call everyone who isnt racists...Just not the case..Everyone has their preferences for the reasons they see fit...Its not their duty to propagate a heterogenous society for the sake of a cause...They have to live with that person...its up to them only... YMMV TFY I think what is ignorant is classifying someone based on their colour as opposed to their cultural background. Africans are very different from black Americans, the same way as a white Eatern European is very different from a white Italian. It's interesting that you refer to yourself as Italian yet you dismiss others as 'blacks' not recognising the diverse background people outside your race come from. As for 'pure blood' in Europe: it doesn't exist. You should take some kind of geneology test to realise what nonsense that is. And that view is definitely racist or rather Ethnocentrism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia This is the exact mentality why I wouldn't live in Southern Europe or really anywhere outside a liberal city.
janedoe67 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Emilia makes a good point. Upbringing and culture and social mores to me make a much bigger difference in the compatibility question. My kids grew up in a basically middle class town of about average suburb size in a somewhat conservative area. Most of the population was college educated and consisted of the traditional nuclear family who were "churchgoing people." We had neighbors of all sorts of levels of melanin in the skin. ANY of their neighbors would have been more "like" them than a person who was a "white" as they are who grew up in - say - the toughest part of Chicago or the tundra of Alaska or something. This probably sounds awful, but as the remainder of those who were middle aged-ish during the 60's die off, I really think some of these things will become less and less of a big deal.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think what is ignorant is classifying someone based on their colour as opposed to their cultural background. Africans are very different from black Americans, the same way as a white Eatern European is very different from a white Italian. It's interesting that you refer to yourself as Italian yet you dismiss others as 'blacks' not recognising the diverse background people outside your race come from. As for 'pure blood' in Europe: it doesn't exist. You should take some kind of geneology test to realise what nonsense that is. And that view is definitely racist or rather Ethnocentrism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia This is the exact mentality why I wouldn't live in Southern Europe or really anywhere outside a liberal city. I call myself Italian because I know I am..I call a black person black because I dont know where they come from..I call black people black...Black people call us white people..Should black people be referring to a random white person as "an Eastern European white person-when they might have an Irish heritage?"...I dont think so...End of story...They dont know where I come from and I dont know where they come from...I have many black customers/friends...No one has ever had any issue with being described as black...If you have the intuitive power to know the geneology of people you meet on the street please let me know what the Powerball numbers are the in the next drawing.. I am a first gen Italian/American...My family on both sides came from the same Italian mountain geographic locale...I dunno...I guess I should just assume I am not ?? *shrug*... TFY
gaius Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think what is ignorant is classifying someone based on their colour as opposed to their cultural background. Africans are very different from black Americans, the same way as a white Eatern European is very different from a white Italian. It's interesting that you refer to yourself as Italian yet you dismiss others as 'blacks' not recognising the diverse background people outside your race come from. As for 'pure blood' in Europe: it doesn't exist. You should take some kind of geneology test to realise what nonsense that is. And that view is definitely racist or rather Ethnocentrism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia This is the exact mentality why I wouldn't live in Southern Europe or really anywhere outside a liberal city. Over here "blacks" all mostly share the same culture. Their ancestors got chained and brought over to work the plantations. Africans that arrived in ways other than that are an incredibly small minority. So unless he wants to make a 5 page post specifying every culture group he would and wouldn't date from all over the world, he gave a pretty accurate cliff notes version of the situation over here. And I thank him for it. One poster that rambles on and on and on is enough. 2
Babolat Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) My ex-wife was a fair skinned strawberry blonde. I work in IT, with a lot of men who are from India. I rememeber the first time I invited one of my Indian co-workers out to a social event with my then wife. His jaw dropped. He could not stop looking at her. He was like Raj Koothrappali in Big Bang Theory, where he can't talk around an attractive woman. It was cute to see. Later he told me how beautiful she was over and over and over. I concluded it's because he grew up with Indian woman, dark hair, darn skin, etc. He agreed. Same goes for a self proclaimed 100% Italian male friend of mine. The first time he met my strawberry blonde pale skin ex-wife, he could not stop saying how beautiful she was. My 46 year old female best friend was born in Spain, lived in Columbia for a while then moved to the states. Her mom is Columbian, her dad is Persian. She has dark hair, olive skin, dark eyes, and looks Italian/Greek/Brazilian/Columbian. She's told me there is no way she can date a man that comes from her same culture because of "how they are". Makes sense to me. Ironically, my self proclaimed 100% Italian male friend use to date my 46 year old female friend. I am attracted to fair/pale skinned, light eyed, woman, usually blondes. I don't know why. I have dated brunettes who did not fit this. The attraction was there so it's not like that's all I will date. In gerneral, it's what I am attracted to. It goes against the "you are attracted to your mom" theory as my mom is very petitie, dark hair, olive skin, dark eyes. Edited April 9, 2014 by Babolat 1
joystickd Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 There are plenty of attractive, educated professional women who are black and have a very difficult time finding a black man at their level. Attractive, educated professional black men can take their pick. There are a few reasons why that it but that is another thread. 2
joystickd Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 You misunderstand. I've been living in the south the past 10 years. I seen some ****. I'm not even going so far as to say that the south is all racist. I'm saying that this whole, "I refuse to date outside my race under any circumstances" thing was borne of racist ideals. I've heard many a [white] girl say that her family (the father in particular) saying that they would not tolerate their dating a black male. I'm black and have heard that, but it didn't bother me. Parents want they believe is the best for their children. I grew up in the rural south. Hell interracial relationships are everywhere around here. We all have perceptions about groups of people and that is why parents have reservations about their children dating outside of their group. Funny thing is I have always gotten along with the parents I did get a chance to meet, but that was because I wasn't the perception they originally had.
contact1 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Not sure, but I can say 100% for sure that I have the Jungle Fever
Tressugar Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) Race is a myth. No one is 100% of anything! We are all ethnically multi-cultured! Edited April 11, 2014 by Tressugar
stillafool Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 You misunderstand. I've been living in the south the past 10 years. I seen some ****. I'm not even going so far as to say that the south is all racist. I'm saying that this whole, "I refuse to date outside my race under any circumstances" thing was borne of racist ideals. I've heard many a [white] girl say that her family (the father in particular) saying that they would not tolerate their dating a black male. Did it occur to you that this woman/women may have that because she was not attracted to you or black men and used her father as an excuse? I have lived in and been to all parts of the south and saw interracial couples together. No one seemed to care.
Shepp Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I'd of dated someone from another race if I'd of been attracted to them, no problem! ...it's not a big deal at all in England! I never gave because I simple never have been! Not even to celebs of another race! I'm not racist in anyway but you like who you like right? And for me, it's always been white but fairly tanned & brunette especially with light eyes! Dunno why? Like babolat my types nothing like my mum who's blonde and very fair! It just always has been and you can't change what your attracted to right?
joystickd Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I'd of dated someone from another race if I'd of been attracted to them, no problem! ...it's not a big deal at all in England! I never gave because I simple never have been! Not even to celebs of another race! I'm not racist in anyway but you like who you like right? And for me, it's always been white but fairly tanned & brunette especially with light eyes! Dunno why? Like babolat my types nothing like my mum who's blonde and very fair! It just always has been and you can't change what your attracted to right? Yeah that is true you can't help what you are attracted to.
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