pinkicedkks Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Me and my ex were away from university for a few months and broke up because of the distance. Throughout this time we flirted a lot and still talked a fair bit. Once we got back we were seeing each other for about 3 weeks but not officially. After an amazing week of him making effort to be with me, saying cute things and stuff we had an argument and he decided to end things very abruptly. We didn't talk for a few days and then saw each other out at a party on campus. He was flirty and friendly and definitely more than friends and later ended up coming back to my room. He slept over in my bed but we didn't have sex. We talked and made out a lot and he was unbelievably cute and said all this stuff about needing me in his life, the way he felt so sad after a break up, told me stuff he never had told anyone, and other things. We then acted like friends but a bit more for a bit less than a week until I got really confused and upset about the whole situation and he said we need to stop complicating things and stop doing all the kissing and things for a while because it is 'frying his brain'. We have decided to be friends. Usually I send a million messages, annoying him an stressing myself out, but this time I have resisted and have backed off more than usual plus we have 2 weeks of holidays so I won't see him. We have been kind of off and on so much and just can't stay away, I feel like we are meant to be, I didn't even feel this way about a previous 5 year relationship. I know he likes me, even loves me, but for some reason he just won't commit. How do I get him back, or at least get on a good friendship level and let him know that I am in his life?
Author pinkicedkks Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 Me and this guy have been on and off for a while. We are always getting in arguments because I try and push our relationship. I know it's wrong and he isn't ready. We are off at the moment. He told me yesterday that "I push him away so much" because of everything that I keep bringing up. I asked if I stop then will I not push him away. He said "Yes! I need space" I don't want to push him away. I am going to not contact him for the 2 weeks of holidays. How else can I stop pushing him away?
chados Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Me and this guy have been on and off for a while. We are always getting in arguments because I try and push our relationship. I know it's wrong and he isn't ready. We are off at the moment. He told me yesterday that "I push him away so much" because of everything that I keep bringing up. I asked if I stop then will I not push him away. He said "Yes! I need space" I don't want to push him away. I am going to not contact him for the 2 weeks of holidays. How else can I stop pushing him away? You're making to much threads. People aren't going to lie to you. Don't wait until someone says what you wanna hear. He wants space then give him space. Simple as that. It doesn't seem that he's the right one for you since you break up all the time but I know you wont listen to this. It's more attractive to not care then care to much and chasing him away. So if you really must get him back don't don't chase him
Simon Phoenix Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Instead of putting a deadline of two weeks, just don't contact him. I mean, if you keep breaking up, it's a sign that you shouldn't be together.
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