SadBabyGirl Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 Last time i saw my ex was march 2004. He abandoned and dissapeared from me in april and after a few emails last summer he was gone forever..out of my life and had made no attempt to contact me whatsoever couldnt care less if i were alive or dead... The thing of it is... i loved him like crazy he was my first love but i knew our relationship was bad because it had many barriers...but he was so tender and romantic and the sex was great but after he dumped me he acted like he had no heart... which showed me his true colors. So i decided to move on..which i have and things are great now, i mean as far as my mentality, physical and inner health, financially and i came across a new wonderful man who had been my friend the entire time and was in love with me and finally came out and told me..i mean this guy is amazing, incredible he would give me the world..and hes the type that has no expectations in return. I feel so much better about myself to know that there was a man the entire time that was honest and loyal to me.. makes me feel good about myself and he doesnt try to change anything bout me or control me like my ex did. The thing is we have a LD relationship.. and sometimes like i keep catching myself thinking of my ex and I DONT want to... like for example today that song came on u know that song by Mario called Let Me Love You and i started having visions of my ex and i making love :-((( and i was crying because i dont want to think of him i want to think of the new man.. i mean dont get me wrong im developing intense feelings for him and im DEEPLY attracted to him as well we just didnt make love yet or the kinds of things i did with my ex, we arent to that point...but valentines day is coming up and he says he has many surprises in store for me on that day he said i want to make u the happiest woman alive. How can i get my stupid ex out of my head he already pretty much made it clear im out of his... is this normal to feel this way even after ten months? I feel like im on a soap opera! Part of it is that i suffer from spouts of depression once in a while but its just the chemical imbalances thats usually when the ex haunts me. Maybe when i finally see my new boyfriend my ex will dissapear hopefully! Wish Me Luck Guys!
debs Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 I can reassure you are normal. Time will help inthis case and when you do see the LD man you will find you think of the ex less and less!
louisejulie Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 sounds like you are thinking of your ex sexually, once you start to have amazing sex with your new guy you will gradually think about your ex less and less. Hope it works out for you.
sundrop Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 You are prefectly normal. Sometimes I find myself thinking about my ex too. I think its only normal, especially when you share something special and they end it the way he did. Just don't let it ruin any furture relationship.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 It's perfectly normal. It diminishes over time, that's all. It hasn't even been a year yet. And Louisejulie is right - good sex with the new guy will wipe out the old. Just don't rush into it before you feel ready.
Author SadBabyGirl Posted February 2, 2005 Author Posted February 2, 2005 Thanks Everyone! I feel a whole lot better now. I guess i still have the attachment because of the first love, first time thing. I felt a lil guilty coz im experiencing love again with someone else, but i wanted to have my ex completely out of my mind coz i feel in my heart im out of his tooo and its not fair to my nice new guy. The past relation well It was amazing, however what he did to me it was uncalled for and made the whole situation in the past ugly as well as he. Just once in a while songs and things from the past trigger the memories, but I am confident now that when i get together with my new man and experience the surprises he says he has in store for me on valentines day i will feel much better and my ex will fizzle away just as I did in his mind.Hez gonna Fizzle Fo Shizzllle. Cheers!
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