Armegoggon Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 So I was on a dating website and I met that girl there. We exchanged our numbers and also sent a lot of messages between each other on there. I wanted to ask for her to meet as a date in the first place but she wasn't really interested due to my age suitability for her. After a few days, I messaged her back asking if we could be friends. She said yes. Now it's been about 3-4 weeks since my first message to her. We do have a lot in common but I don't fit her age range as a date. So out of almost all the messages she wrote me, it contained emoticons. However, the last 3 messages she wrote me back contained no emoticon. Is she losing her friendship interest as of now? So how should I approach her and ask her to meet from online as friends? She rejected to meet as a date but now I want the friendship of it. I've never met someone online so yeah. She already told me the exact location of the retail store she works at but I never wanted to go there unless I asked her. Another question I have is, when would be a good time to ask her on Facebook to add me? I don't really want to keep her messaging on the dating site as there is a message limit and I rarely use my phone.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 You don't. There is no way to approach her without it coming across as either A) creepy, B) desperate, or C) ulterior motives. 1
Author Armegoggon Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 It sounds a little broad to me. Do you mind elaborating?
CC12 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 So out of almost all the messages she wrote me, it contained emoticons. However, the last 3 messages she wrote me back contained no emoticon. Is she losing her friendship interest as of now? They're just emoticons. They mean nothing. Look at the content of her messages. Are they short or cold or less friendly than they used to be? If so, then she may have lost interest in being your online friend. There's nothing you can do about that. Just move on. So how should I approach her and ask her to meet from online as friends? She rejected to meet as a date but now I want the friendship of it. I've never met someone online so yeah. Ask her if she'd like to grab coffee with you sometime, just as friends. But I want to caution you against trying to be her friend if you'd ultimately like something more, as it seems you do. A lot of people go the friends route because they think it might maybe someday result in her finally wanting to be together, but in the meantime, you'd be faking a friendship and that seems really wrong. She already told me the exact location of the retail store she works at but I never wanted to go there unless I asked her. Never ask to go to her store, and don't ever drop by uninvited. If she invites you, then you can go, but only at the specific time she invites you. Another question I have is, when would be a good time to ask her on Facebook to add me? When you've met with her a few times and you guys are actually friends in real life.
juicygirl Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 The only way around this to not sound creepy is to invite her to a social gathering "Hey, my friends are having a bbq, party, movie night etc would be great if you and some friends could come?" If other people are around it's not a date, if you allow her to bring someone she may feel safer as you're still a stranger to her. Otherwise she'll see it as the guy she just turned down still trying to get a date with her even if you class it as an "unofficially date" 1
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