Divorced for almost 8 months... why would you leave up all your photos?

[what_a_blonde]

I'm curious.. does anyone have ideas on why an ex would leave pictures up on on actively used Facebook/ social media account after being divorced so long?

 

I understand that maybe there's the whole "holding on" factor, but I just find it interesting that some would leave it up on Facebook (wedding pictures and all), after everyone is fully aware the marriage didn't work out after 4 months.

 

From what I understand, she is the reason the divorce happened (well, and now that I know what I know about him. he is probably part of the reason she cheated... not saying cheating is right, but anyway.. that's a whole new topic). FWIW, they are both in their late 20s, no kids.

 

In summary - they dated for over 2 years... 5 months before the wedding he caught her cheating with an ex, they broke up, then reconciled 2 months later and continued with the planned wedding in Feb 2013... then by June 2013 they were separated. Sept 2013 divorced.

 

He deleted all his FB stuff of him and her, started an online account at match.com in Nov, moved into a downtown apartment with a friend, etc., but she still has everything up on Facebook of the two of them.

 

I just think its strange. I'm not losing sleep over it but its something I've been pondering since noticing last week- was wondering if anyone has insight or "theories".

[Radu]

Maybe the marriage was an accomplishment for her.

Which means that the guy was something of an accesory, like a nice purse.

 

My cousin married a woman like this.

She divorced him in under 1yr after their big wedding.

[what_a_blonde]

Maybe the marriage was an accomplishment for her.

Which means that the guy was something of an accesory, like a nice purse.

 

My cousin married a woman like this.

She divorced him in under 1yr after their big wedding.

 

Interesting perspective.

 

Like your cousin's wedding, this was a big wedding as well. I'm not making light of their divorce, and I'm hoping the right intentions were there.. but I can imagine there were many disappointed guests and family members after the fact. I'm sure they raked in thousands in gifts...

[what_a_blonde]

Also - an accessory? Are there really woman that would think like this and/or flaunt it that way?

 

This is speaking from inexperience, but I almost think that if I were to get divorced, it would be because of a complete falling out and I wouldn't want any past signs of the relationship (because it would remind me and stir up emotions.. and slightly due to embarrassment of failed marriage).

[Radu]

Also - an accessory? Are there really woman that would think like this and/or flaunt it that way?

 

This is speaking from inexperience, but I almost think that if I were to get divorced, it would be because of a complete falling out and I wouldn't want any past signs of the relationship (because it would remind me and stir up emotions.. and slightly due to embarrassment of failed marriage).

 

It's more of a situation where she wishes so much for the goal, the marriage, the ring, the white dress that she will subconsciously allow herself to make it work.

Once that is done, the motivation is gone, and the relationship in a way is renegociated by her.

 

If you have on your hands a woman who's goal in life was that, than after the marriage the goal was accomplished [there are some who have a baby as their lifegoal].

In this situation, the man is simply an accesory, he just fulfills a function.