SpiralOut Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I don't know what I was thinking, dating him. He didn't understand things. He was selfish. Something was wrong with his thinking ability. He is a liar. I used to blame it all on his schitzophrenia, but I don't think it was just the disease. I think a lot of it was him. I think he would have been that way even without it. Before he started getting attacks, he treated his family badly. He lied to them and stole so much money. I introduced him to a few of my guy friends and he used them. He used his mother. He used his friend's uncle. He lied to me about so many things. He shared inappropriate private conversations that he had with me, with his family and never told me. I had to figure it out by myself. I went through boxes of ex-boyfriend stuff last month. I had fond memories of two other guys, but not for this guy. All of my memories are tainted. I don't respect him. He is just some loser I wasted my time on. 1
Sunshinegurl88 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Is there question here or just venting? He sounds pretty terrible I agree.
SCJACK Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 If your ex is as bad as you make it... I guess I have hope of attracting someone.. I must be an angel compared to him. But yet I feel like nobody gives a crap about me! Just venting as well..
flightplan Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Take this in the spirit intended, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that had a chuckle at your thread title. For some reason, it made me laugh. 1
Author SpiralOut Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 I am just venting. I was too hurt for the longest time to call him names. I wanted to be better than him, by not acting childish. But I don't care anymore if I sound childish. He was an idiot and I was foolish to ****ing date him.
bluegreen Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 If we only told some of our stories ... But as Julius Cezar said : Vene Vidi Vichi its bit difficult to type that in English point being is I came I saw I won = You. You dated him saw him for looser and bag of crap that he was and you WON when you left his worthless ass. All I can say is Cheers anyone : ))) ?
Attack on Potato Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Your Ex sounds a lot like mine. We were together for around 2 years, he was a total loser too, some of his bad points were being a habitual liar, being arrogant and being really,really petty. There's tons more but these are the more prominent traits of his horrid personality. He cheated on me with another woman for over 4 months and finally ended things with me using some lame excuse about wanting to focus on his career. Then after the breakup, he proceeded to marry the woman he met 5 months ago. During the point of time he was two-timing, he got me to gift him several items (Ipad, gold necklace, Iphone etc..) which he later gave to his new wife as a gift. Oh well, guess he couldn't afford them himself. He was really petty too, once his army officer yelled at him for coming in late and still having the gall to get breakfast first and he actually went to the Institute of Mental Health and spent several hundreds to get someone to write him up as depressed and suicidal from the army officer yelling at him and to admit him to the mental institute for a few days. All just to get back at the officer in some way by getting him into trouble for 'traumatizing' him. So there you have it, guys like these are mentally unsound. Maybe they are really insecure. Maybe they're just nuts or there's a gaping hole where their heart is supposed to be. Whatever the reason is, be glad they're out of your life and take the wasted time as a sort of lesson to avoid these kinda guys in the future. 2
Author SpiralOut Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 I think guys like that just have their heads too far up their asses to see, or care, how they hurt others. They are self-serving. My ex was really ****ty in bed. When I tried to tell him what I liked, he didn't do any of it. Then he complained about how I wasn't in the mood anymore. I told him why I had stopped wanting to, told him WHAT he could do to make me want to sleep with him again, and he didn't do anything!!! We went to couples counselling (haha so sad I know!) and he explained to the counsellor about how "not many guys would date a girl who stopped having sex with them." This, coming from a schizophrenic guy who contributed NOTHING to the relationship! What an entitled SOB.
Trovador Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Well he was not that all of a loser, seeing how he dated a wonderful and beautiful woman, namely you...
Author SpiralOut Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 (edited) What do you mean your partner was schizophrenic? Was this a clinical diagnosis? You knew this about him when you were together? Yes. He had a diagnosis. He told me after we'd been together 3 months. He was on medication and he acted normal. The only thing that gave him away was the fact that he did not work full-time. I stupidly believed that it wouldn't affect things. I had no idea of what I was getting into. I was so naïve. And everytime he acted selfish or lied I told myself it was because of his illness. I made excuse after excuse for him. I am sick and tired of feeling like I can't vent about him because "it's not his fault." Well you know what, maybe some of it is. I'm tired of the way that he got to act how he wanted and have an excuse for everything, while I got held accountable for anything I did wrong. I feel guilty even saying of that. I'm tired of not being able to complain without feeling guilty. I've been terrified of dating ever since. My worst nightmare is to date someone that I need to take care of again. I felt like I was this guy's mother, and he threw temper tantrums whenever I told him to stop being so disrespectful to me. He was so childish. Again, maybe he couldn't help that, but it was still awful to deal with. Edited April 12, 2014 by SpiralOut
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