lacey23 Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 I work as a nurse at a hospital and there's this male nurse I really like.. Some 2 months ago he was sort of hitting on me and one day I gave him my phone number on a piece of paper but he never called.. I felt stupid and a few weeks later I told him the only reason I gave him my phone number was so we could go out drinking one day (that's one thing we have in common), that it wasn't so we could go out on a date or anything.. he didn't say anything, I don't think he cared anyway. I didn't see him much for a few weeks and now for about a week we've been working in the same area and he's acting very weird, he sings bits of songs that have to do with couples whenever I'm around, and talks to me with no reason sometimes, he winks at me sometimes, and he just treats very differently from the other girls that work there. I don't want him to know that I'm into him so last night I saw him and didn't even say hi, I said hi like 3 hours later, so he can't suspect anything. I don't know if I ****ed up a few months back when I gave him my phone number without him asking or anything, maybe that turned him off, but I think I fixed it when I told him that it was strictly for a friendship.. so I don't wanna **** up now, I can't even flirt with him cuz then he'll know and maybe he'll laugh cuz I gave him my number before and he didn't call.. 2 months ago he was separated, waiting to get some money matters sorted out so he could get divorced; I asked him about it the other day and he got divorced last week... he was like let's go out and celebrate, but I don't know what to think. Maybe he just likes me as a friend? or maybe he does all those things to play with my mind cuz maybe he knows how much I like him? If he liked me too he would've called me, right? He does have my phone number.. so what do you guys think? Thanks.
Pocky Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 I think you're thinking about him too much. You gave him your number and he didn't call. If I were you I'd make the assumption he's just interested in being your friend and I'd set my eyes on someone else.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 Putting myself in his shoes, maybe he just doesn't know what he wants. He's still got the divorce going thru his head... Myself, I'm at the post-breakup stage where I'm starting to flirt with other girls again. But my head and heart are confused. Every guy is different, but here's what would work for me: - Be confident and flirt right back in a lighthearted way. If he mentions drinks again, make it into a joke "well, you know where to find me, but you better get in line behind all the other admirers". - the other thing is, I'm flirty on the outside, but sometimes crying on the inside. If he opens up, even a crack, about something that's worrying him, be gentle, tender and sympathetic: "are you ok?" Touch his elbow or shoulder in a reassuring way. A girl did this yesterday and won so many points with me. Don't invest too much emotional capital in this guy though - watch out for the rebound.
emopunk Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 Stop thinking and act! Seriously, don't worry about it too much. If you like him, flirt back. If things start to progress and you want to stay friends, sit and down and talk it out. If you become interested in more, watch for rebound. But just enjoy the relationship on whatever level may come.
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