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So I made a post a few days ago because someone who I'd been talking too had been to prison for a sex offence

 

If that wasn't bad enough

 

Today while watching the news, I heard a name I recognised. Looked up to be greeted with the face of a man I dated for about 4 months.

 

He was an army officer - according to the news he's since been kicked out of the military for stealing from others soldiers and dates.

 

Today he was sentenced to life imprisonment for murdering one woman and almost killing another (who he also dated from

The same site)

 

I feel shocked, relief, frightened that someone like that was around me and I was clueless.

 

Either god is real and doesn't want me to date or I have the worse luck of all mankind!

 

So I ask you lovely lot - what on earth does a girl have to do to find a nice normal chap to date? Lol

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God is real! Thank God he didn't hurt you! Try meeting people IRL. It's very easy for people to lie behind a computer.

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God is real! Thank God he didn't hurt you! Try meeting people IRL. It's very easy for people to lie behind a computer.

 

Well in your opinion he is however that's a never ending debate I'm not about to have lol!

 

I think I agree, real life is definitely a step in the right direction :)

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What are your expectations in dating? How do you carry yourself? What do you think you deserve, honestly? How do you see yourself? If you are attracting broken men then you have to ask yourself if you are a Florence Nightengale who wants to heal everyone, a low self esteemed who thinks she deserves very little or a naive Pollyanna who accepts every behavior because you want everyone to like you and you think you should give everyone a chance because people are inherently good. Then there is the mommy who thinks they need to "raise" men who are broken because they obviously did not get parented correctly. So which are you, or are you all of them to a certain degree? By reflecting on this it may give you some insight to why you keep attracting the broken losers.

Best,

Grumps

 

Moved from other double post in wrong section.

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What are your expectations in dating? How do you carry yourself? What do you think you deserve, honestly? How do you see yourself? If you are attracting broken men then you have to ask yourself if you are a Florence Nightengale who wants to heal everyone, a low self esteemed who thinks she deserves very little or a naive Pollyanna who accepts every behavior because you want everyone to like you and you think you should give everyone a chance because people are inherently good. Then there is the mommy who thinks they need to "raise" men who are broken because they obviously did not get parented correctly. So which are you, or are you all of them to a certain degree? By reflecting on this it may give you some insight to why you keep attracting the broken losers.

Best,

Grumps

 

Moved from other double post in wrong section.

 

 

 

Thanks for the reply grumps :) I don't think I fall into any of those brackets.

 

I think I deserve someone who is good and kind. A general nice guy. At least this is what I am searching for.

 

I have no idea why these people are attracted to me and I have no idea why their "secret selfs" seem to come out and be so shocking.

 

I think it's a live and learn thing for sure and thank my lucky stars neither of them were ever introduced to my children

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