elseaacych Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Hi, everyone! Something I've been seeing around a lot is that you have to be "ready" after a break up to date again. This seems kind of like a flip-floppy thing. Ready seems to mean a lot of different things, and many days I feel wonderful and ready to date, just to enjoy myself and get to meet new people, potentially find a relationship if things go well. And others, well, let's say the love bug has turned into the love flu now that my ex is now my ex. So, what does it mean to you to be ready to date? 1
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 To me it meant that I made peace with the break up. I was over it / him. I didn't want him back. I didn't "need" a man in my life but was again ready to be happy & share my life with somebody. I was also done crying & pining & wondering what happened.
thecrucible Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I think you know you're over it when you don't talk about it on any date you're on, and you're able to fully focus on the other person. And also when you've made peace with it, you've stopped analysing it or trying to figure out what you've done wrong, and you've officially said 'good riddance' to the person from your past. Basically, you have an open heart. I mean I don't talk about my exes anymore. I would say I'm over it but to some extent the scars run deep, for me with a past abusive bf. It's taken me ages to rebuild my trust in men and I'm not sure whether there'll ever be a point when I fully over it, because it had such a strong emotional impact on me. But in my mind, I'm as over it as I can be. I've learnt from it. To some extent, everyone carries a bit of baggage around with them. It took me ages to get over my last long term relationship. We dated for 3 years but were drifting a part, and then my infidelity brought an official end to it. Of course I regretted it and it took me a long time to get over the guilt and repair the damage. I couldn't get serious with anyone for 2 years afterwards. For a while I had casual relationships that I knew wouldn't go anywhere. Last year I was multi-dating but now I hate the taste of it. It would be ideal for me now to find one person I can be in a relationship with. I'm trying to narrow down my options and either date only 1 at a time, or be happily single. I'm feeling really like I want 'love' now and it's been a while since I've felt like that. As for guys, I think you can tell when they are really into you for the right reasons. If only I had learnt that a long time ago. I used to go for guys who were quick off the bat and eager. Now that turns me off and I prefer the type of guy who actually wants to court me and to take it slow. 1
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