AJinlove Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 As far as making the mistake of calling/texting her after she said she'd do it, I strongly disagree with you. I'm a very punctual person. I believe that if you say you're going to do something, you are expected to do it. Period. The first time she failed to call me, I waited all day for her text/call because she said she would. I let it go the first time. However, when you fail to do something twice in two consecutive days, that tells me that you don't take responsibility. That was a red flag. Not only did she fail to call me, but she didn't pick up the phone when I tried to contact her. I don't care who it is...if I'm available, I'll answer the phone for anybody. When I don't answer the phone, there is usually a reason why (and it's never a good reason). I don't understand how it's needy or desperate. Someone tells you when they'll call, they fail to call, so you call them. In business, that **** will get you fired. You don't go up to your boss and say "hey, I'm gonna finish that TPS report in a little while." When you don't do it, your boss comes back, wonders why the TPS report isn't completed, and is upset. You said you were going to do something, you didn't do it, and therefore...what does that make you? A non-reliable employee. If I'm needy for finding out whether she's reliable or not, so be it. But you know what? I probably saved myself a lot of heartache. So you know what? I give myself a pat on the needy and desperate back. I must say I agree with you. If you say you will call and you don't call is disrespectful, immature, a product of lack of self esteem, or at the very least a sign of no interest and/or she is playing a silly dating strategy. In my world all of those are big red flags. But actually you should be grateful she is showing these signs even before your first date because now you know in advance this women is not is material for long term commitment; and you can lay out your dating strategy with her before hand. My advise is don't get emotionally involved, always have in your mind these red flags about her, and simply go out on the date to have fun and build a sexual connection. She might not be girlfriend material, but if she is hot enough she could be alot of fun.
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