Author catherine1 Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 Thank you very much, its hard as i believe if i were more relaxed and myself this could have gone somewhere in its natural time scale. Im glad ive inspired you
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 U should have felt comfortable with him... I didnt feel that comfortable with my recent ex either but I fancied him loads and wanted it to work and its nice having someone special x Im still blaming myself to a degree and its stupid.. if they wanted us they would be here... they wanted out and honestly it really wouldnt have mattered if we had have had conversations with them it really was inevitable the only thing we done was speed the process up for them. I also reacted as mine went distant x
Author catherine1 Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 yeah i felt so comfortable with him at first, and stuck it out as what we had before i said "no pressure" was great. Its hard isnt it, when you like someone that much, your mind goes crazy, ive learnt to relax. I hope youre right, i regret too, only 'cos he went on edge after this.
Author catherine1 Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 He obviously wanted a "more normal" girl, one who goes with the flow and whose head doesnt go crazy, and lets it flow.
thecrucible Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 He obviously wanted a "more normal" girl, one who goes with the flow and whose head doesnt go crazy, and lets it flow. I know how you feel. I'd struggle with that too because I'm a sensitive person. I once read somewhere that you shouldn't worry about being clingy because it's just about finding someone who's 'clingy' levels are similar to yours haha. So I'm assuring myself that if I freak a guy out, we are obviously just not on the same level. I think I would have done the same as you. At the end of day, you should be around someone you feel comfortable around where it doesn't feel like you have to walk on eggshells with your feelings. 1
SD1000 Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Its mad as HE WAS into me, told me id raised the bar, i could tell by the way he looked at me he was into me. He never messed me around, was careful of what he said/appeared. Was so affectionate, was such a gent to me. If he was into you, then he would not suddenly leave for such a petty reason. I agree with the others that you didn't do anything wrong. Stop blaming yourself. 1
HappyLove Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Really?! So you told a man you liked him and he bailed so now your beating yourself up? He was going to bail whether you said anything or not. He only told you what you wanted to hear to get in your pants. Him telling you that you raised the bar was cringe worthy. Be happy he left. After 6 months you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells and have a right to know where the relationship is going. He did you a favor. Now get out there and find a man worth your time and who doesn't have the maturity level of a 12 year old.
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