Just looking for some kind words )':

[ariesgirl-328]

Goodmorning! I'm just looking for some uplifting words from you guys since i know you all have been through what I've been through and have probably felt as crappy as I feel today randomly before. And you all have given me kind words before (: I'd realllllyyyy appreciate some now tooooo

 

Basically what has happened is that yesterday I found out the business I've been working on for the last 6 months with all my efforts cannot work any longer. So....out of that sadness, I looked up my ex's instagram after a month... :| which led me to find out that hes talking to this other adorable girl the way he used to speak to me so they are probably together now ):, so i kik messaged him that I hope he is well.......thankfully no reply yet.

 

After that I went drinking with my best guyfriend, this had to be the night he decided he would try to get me to be a friends with benefits with him, so the entire night I was stuck drunk, trying to keep his hands out of my pants like a maniac, and then didn't even get the calm cuddling and hugs I was hoping for to feel better :|

 

And the guy I've been talking to as a potential boyfriend just completely fell off the face of this earth, so i no longer have the desire to pursue any type of relationship with anyone or search for anything anymore. (This I am very happy about actually, because I always feel like I need a relationship)

 

So all in all I'm just so down about my ex again...i know this is just falling backwards a little...but it makes me think that im still in love with him when I desperately don't want to be.......or I just think of him when I'm sad...then get sadder when I stalk him and find out about his amazing self having an even more amazing life than before.

 

Does this happen to anyone else?????? that you actually stalk your ex when you feel bad just to feel worse or listen to old music that reminds you only of them and makes you feel terrible and remember the past so clearly..........idk why I even did that, It's been basically a year since the breakup but I miss him so much, and now i feel way worse knowing hes found another great girl to share himself with ): boo

[STM206]

You have to stop torturing yourself.

 

Your ex left you, why should your life be at a standstill because of him? Take the fact that you still care about him and turn it into a positive thing...

 

"I loved him and I know I'm capable of giving my love to someone who is deserving of it, **** MY EX"

 

You only can move forward if you allow yourself to, but like many of us - we hold ourselves back.

[Simon Phoenix]

Sucks that you are going through this, but next time, you need to realize that the "calm cuddling and hugs" that you wanted from your friend without giving him sex is similarly as self-centered as him wanting sex from you without giving you the love of a relationship. You can't afford to have that double-standard.

 

As for the rest of it, the absolute worst time to "stalk" an ex (not that there's every a really good time to doit) is when you are feeling like crap. That's the time when you have to be steadfast and show the most resolve.