HeartbrokeninNTX Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 I need some advice, I guess mainly from women. I have been dating this girl for 5 months now, things went very fast and things were great up until a month ago . Prior to this talks of marriage were even raised, we even became engaged. During the beginning she had guy friends, but she quit talking to them which is a decision she made. Now these guys friends were related to her ex, so it was nice to see her shed them. She asked me to also get rid of my female friends. Knowing that I was in this for awhile I made that decision and have stuck to it. Now nearly 3 months after that, she wants her old male friends back. I am having a hard time accepting this...she didn't need them for quite some time, she readily gave them up by her own accord and now she wants them back. These male friends aren't like something she has had for many years, it is less than a year. Her explination was that in the beginning she felt very secure in this and that she could place all of her faith in this. Well, not that things are rocky and no longer that solid to her she wants these people back. I told her I couldn't accept that, if she wants male friends fine, she will make new ones, ones that are brought into this, not ones related to your past with your ex. She said she couldn't accept that, and that I couldn't give her an ultimatum. I was only asking, it came down the point Sunday night where she packed her things and wanted to leave. I asked her to reconsider and she stayed until morning. I once again brought up the issue of her friends this morning and she was very argumentative and not willing to compromise whatsoever. I should point out also that she wanted to change several other things to which I saw no problem (Her going back to school, Postpoining Marriage, Postponing Kids). She left this morning, she went 4.5 hours away back to her home. She said she needed time to think...so as of 12:00 noon today I ceased all contact with her so that she can have the time she needed. She was calling non stop a little after 1. I finally answered at 7:00 this evening and she was very upset that I avoided her calls. I don't understand...she said she wanted to get away and think..and now that I did that she is upset at not answering her calls. I told her I would be hear in open arms should she decide to come back home. Now, she got there at the help of her mom's friend and if I want her to come back she expects me to help her move her things back here...What would you do?
thromback Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 Hmm if you really like her do what she wants, but about her friends thing I would be mad too. I don't know her so I could be wrong, but it sounds like she is saying you dont make her fell secure. Just try and make things better like helping her move (if thats what you want). Then act like you don't care about her guy friends, or you can not let her have them back- I'm not sure about this one.
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