natwilliams Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I know what you're thinking. No! But hear me out. This girl stopped talking to me after our third date immediately after we started to get a little physical (in her room upon her invitation). She stopped it shortly after our shirts were off. We texted a little since then and she said she's not mad just busy. I'm thinking EITHER she didn't like my trimmed chest hair haha (even though she did remark that I'm very fit) - OR - didn't like how fast I pushed things (even though she clearly invited it all). In case it is the second, I want to make it up to her and show her the truth which is that I'm totally okay with a very slow process of physical connection. So I thought I would drop off a book for her that I know is right up her alley with a friendly note saying I hope we can still be friends or something like that. Even if it won't produce any "results" I kind of want to give her the book anyway just to go that extra mile. To show I'm not that kind of guy who just will rove on to the next girl as if I have a sales job. And I guess to give me some sort of sweet closure if nothing else.
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Sometimes a well timed apology gift can heal things. In your case giving her anything will make it worse. She will feel like a prostitute. Don't try to Buy her. Call her -- don't text. Call. Invite her on a public date & don't go anywhere private. Show her you like her not just the fact that she was willing to let you get to 2nd base.
Author natwilliams Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 But what am I apologizing for exactly? For getting to second base when she seemed to invite it?
Author natwilliams Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 What about instead of a book gift I give a nice (home burned) CD of music. She really loves music.
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 You are not apologizing for anything nor should you. What I said was in certain circumstances -- not yours but when somebody does genuinely screw up -- an apology gift can help. making her a CD is something else & I have no problem with that. Really I suspect she's all up in her own head because she let you "go too far" & now she is fretting that you don't respect her or something. Doing anything that shows her you like her for more than physical reasons should help.
flight E Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 I think a book idea is ok. Like hey saw this at the book store tot u will like it. But no notes please. It gets to emotive and from my experience girls don't like that. They like being the ones that are emotional. Just my tots
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