Mary Oak Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I have a great group of friends, who are loyal and I have been friends with for many, many years. I also enjoy hanging out with them. But, this is the problem, they are either a part of a couple, which can get kinda depressing at times, or they are living up the single life with drinking, etc. Which, I don't mind on occassion, but not normally. I live quite a drive from most of my friends so seeing them during the week just usually doesn't happen. I have never been lonely before. I usually love my time alone, doing things around the house, and hanging with my dogs. But, just recently, I have learned what it is to be lonely. I still miss my ex, and I still am in love with her. Though I have accepted the break-up and know there will be no reconcilation. I have tried numerous dating sites, but no luck so far. Lonely is an awful feeling, and very new to me. Any insights why I am just feeling this now, and will it go away?
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 You are feeling it because there are no weekday buffers. You need to find a way to keep yourself busy. Can you make a friend at work? Can you get involved in an industry group to network & get some human interaction? Do you play a sport / can you join a team? Do you want a pet for companionship? You need to spend at least 1 day per seek doing something fun with other people to feel connected & not isolated. It will ease the loneliness. 1
Author Mary Oak Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 I have my two dogs which always require me to go home straight after work, so getting back to my friends is almost impossible. They also provide me a lot of company. It is really when I settle down for the night that I feel the loneliness. I know this is probably normal after coming out of a seven year relationship, but I hav never felt lonely before. I usually enjoy my company a lot. I would rather be by myself most of the time that just having small talk with someone else. I am hoping this is just a phase.
True Gent Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I know exactly how you feel Mary Oak. I've just recently come out of a 9 year relationship and it is tough! I'm 34 years old and I'm living completely on my own for the first time in my life. I must admit there are many positives to living alone, but there is no getting away from that lack of companionship from a partner you are oh so comfortable with... Spending time with other people and getting onto the hobbies you enjoy really does help. Unfortunately missing those bed time hugs is something which will take some getting used to. It will get easier, I do think the best way to 100% get over it is finding someone else. I haven't yet, but it's early days and finding special people isn't exactly easy. We've just got to walk the walk for now. It WILL improve.
johnww92 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Hang in there bro I'm in the same boat, loneliness is ****.
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