elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 My girlfriend and i got into a fight last week in which i called her a piece of **** (it was wrong i know),i have apologized and we have talked since then and have hung out though she said she is still uspet because she never expected me to say that to her. she sent me a pin on pinterest today saying "when aquarius is hurt, the recovery process is very long. they cant just snap out of it. already a detached type, they may even grow more distant" what is she meaning? is this something that is going to take awhile
Mascara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 It means you're going to get reacquainted with your right hand until at least Easter. 3
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 It means you're going to get reacquainted with your right hand until at least Easter. damn seriously?
HappyLove Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 If she has any self respect she won't. What a disgusting thing to say to a woman you supposedly care about or maybe you don't! 1
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 If she has any self respect she won't. What a disgusting thing to say to a woman you supposedly care about or maybe you don't! i do care. i just lost my cool
Mrin Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Ya dude, those words leave marks. Not sure she can ever unhear that 1
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 Ya dude, those words leave marks. Not sure she can ever unhear that shes called me ****ing stupid before like that doesnt hurt?>
Mrin Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Sure but that's an adjective. What you said was a noun and probably one of the worst things you can say to someone you care about - at least top 10.
TaraMaiden Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 My girlfriend and i got into a fight last week in which i called her a piece of **** (it was wrong i know),i have apologized and we have talked since then and have hung out though she said she is still uspet because she never expected me to say that to her. she sent me a pin on pinterest today saying "when aquarius is hurt, the recovery process is very long. they cant just snap out of it. already a detached type, they may even grow more distant" what is she meaning? is this something that is going to take awhile My father was an Aquarius. He took no time at all and never harboured grudges, against anyone. I guess you really must have cut her to the bone with that one. While this is obviously something that has, is and will play on her mind for a while, you could implement a damage limitation strategy by telling her, kindly, and with due consideration that (1) you will never, ever resort to name-calling again, and (2) "Please tell me, what can I possibly do to make it up to you? I said it in the heat of the moment, it was wrong and I regret it. What can I do, in your eyes, to prove to you that I'm sorry? How can I make this better?"
VeronicaRoss Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 If you think words like that are any less of an assault than a slap on the face, you've got something pretty serious to learn. She's not overreacting, you need to take this in as good information about your lack of ability to handle stress and learn now. 'Losing your cool' isn't ever going to be an excuse. When you lash out the damage can't be undone. Maybe in your family that was acceptable, but in most of the world lashing out when you 'lose your cool' is going to create big problems -- for you. Would you talk to a boss like that? If not, you've got the ability, you just learn to bring that respect into other relationships. You're going to be provoked by men and women far worse than she did in the future personally and professionally, you better be able to handle it in a way that doesn't ruin the relationship. Everyone has to start somewhere, if you didn't learn this at home you can teach yourself. Buy some books or see a counselor or something if this doesn't make sense.
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 What happens when say your boss pushes you to the brink -- would you call him a POS out of anger or because you lost your cool? If you have the ability to restrain yourself from doing it in those types of situations, then you can have the restraint to never speak to a loved one that way. Plus, I don't know what type of relationship you two have that you both freely insult and degrade one another.
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 This is the first time in the year we have been together that I haveccalled her a name Can't she let it go
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 This is the first time in the year we have been together that I haveccalled her a name Can't she let it go I think something like that will stay around for a long while. Actions have repercussions. You'll just have to give her time to ride it out herself. Someone said it -- it's going to be hard for her to "unhear" that. If my boyfriend spoke to me that way, I wouldn't even want to be around him.
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 I think something like that will stay around for a long while. Actions have repercussions. You'll just have to give her time to ride it out herself. Someone said it -- it's going to be hard for her to "unhear" that. If my boyfriend spoke to me that way, I wouldn't even want to be around him. Would you dump him? Especially if it was the first time
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Would you dump him? Especially if it was the first time Before I answer that, my question to you is, what was so bad about the quarrel that you had to call her a POS? The only time I ever called a partner that was when I caught him cheating on me. I can't think of anything as compelling to call someone you love a piece of shytt.
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 Before I answer that, my question to you is, what was so bad about the quarrel that you had to call her a POS? The only time I ever called a partner that was when I caught him cheating on me. I can't think of anything as compelling to call someone you love a piece of shytt. She lied to me. She said she was with a couple of friends shopping when she was actually out with some co worker guy of hers
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I can see why you would hit the roof and blow off on her character by calling her that. But I wouldn't condone that use of language. Where does the lie stand in this situation?
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 I can see why you would hit the roof and blow off on her character by calling her that. But I wouldn't condone that use of language. Where does the lie stand in this situation? Well one she didn't cheat and I believe her. She didn't wantto tell nme because she thought I would be mad. I'm upset she lied but I haveforgave hher
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Well one she didn't cheat and I believe her. She didn't wantto tell nme because she thought I would be mad. I'm upset she lied but I haveforgave hher She took the risk of making you mad, breaking trust and possibly causing a huge rift/crack in her relationship because she wanted to hang with this guy. Guy was her priority at the expense of the relationship. Bad sign. If I were you, I'd have my radars up.
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 She took the risk of making you mad, breaking trust and possibly causing a huge rift/crack in her relationship because she wanted to hang with this guy. Guy was her priority at the expense of the relationship. Bad sign. If I were you, I'd have my radars up. Your right. But I mean yeah I was wrong to call her that but shouldn't she realize she was just as wrong. I hurt her but she also hurt me
Zahara Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Your right. But I mean yeah I was wrong to call her that but shouldn't she realize she was just as wrong. I hurt her but she also hurt me It doesn't matter the name calling anymore. You have a bigger issue to focus on. For some reason I am thinking that she's now using that against you to take the heat and guilt of her. Have your radar up. Lying about this guy is not a good sign.
TheGuard13 Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 she sent me a pin on pinterest today saying "when aquarius is hurt, the recovery process is very long. they cant just snap out of it. already a detached type, they may even grow more distant" what is she meaning? It means she's a drama queen and enjoys playing the victim. Wonder whether "healing" herself over this namecalling incident will involve hanging out with other men. 1
Author elevateiam Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 It doesn't matter the name calling anymore. You have a bigger issue to focus on. For some reason I am thinking that she's now using that against you to take the heat and guilt of her. Have your radar up. Lying about this guy is not a good sign. i know i know im ust trying to focus on what i did wrong right now she didnt go on a date with him. she said they just went to lunch and just talked about work (they are having management changes) and stuff
Eivuwan Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 i know i know im ust trying to focus on what i did wrong right now she didnt go on a date with him. she said they just went to lunch and just talked about work (they are having management changes) and stuff So why did she think you would get mad over something so benign? This whole thing doesn't make sense to me.
Zahara Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 i know i know im ust trying to focus on what i did wrong right now she didnt go on a date with him. she said they just went to lunch and just talked about work (they are having management changes) and stuff Right. That's why she had to hide it from you. Eyes open. 1
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