Markholland Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 il try and make this short but im really stuck in a pickle here basically i met a girl while out one night we exchanged numbers and have been talking for over a month now we hung out twice and instantly hit it off had alot of fun and we both felt a real connection between us both we would spend hours on the phone talking and whatever when we first started talking she told me she is currently suffering from clinical depression and anxiety and was being treated for it but i saw past that as at the time it seemed to not effect anything and i still wanted to see if it could work so now this is where im at we have stopped talking as much she takes hours or days to reply to my messages we hardly talk on the phone anymore never makes contact with me i always have to contact her we have organised 3 times to get together and hang out 3 times she has cancelled and not contacted me at all to say shes not comming it seems that there will be a day or 2 we talk and talk then suddenly it stops then another couple of days and we talk again she says shes just going through a rough patch and freaking out she also said her illness causes her to push people away but says she really likes me and always talks about "us" now i find myself feeling down as i really like her we spoke briefly tonight and i told her that its best i walk away for now as i feel im putting in to much effort and i feel shes pushing me away and its like its just a constant circle and nothings moving forward i wished her all the best in getting better was that the right thing to do ? so what are my options i feel like im best to walk away and move on but then i feel i should wait for her to get better im really confused i really like her has anyone got any good advice for dealing with a girl thats depressed ? any advice would be great thankyou
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Mark, It sounds like you did all the right things. It's not your responsibility or duty to stay in a relationship that falls short of your expectations. It sounds like she needs a good deal of help and until she gets it and learns to use the coping skills to remain as level as possible, she is not in any condition to have a relationship. Date others. Don't wait. But, if she feels ready and does contact you and you are not committed to someone else, it's clearly up to you if you want to try again.
Recommended Posts