mortensorchid Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I am in a new mindset these days, which is that I want to see a few guys at the same time. I mean, I have been out with a few, and I want to see both of them. I don't want to lie to either, of course, they are two very different people, and I am not a user. Instead I am of this mindset that I want to be with both. Does that make me a user?
topaMAXX Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I am in a new mindset these days, which is that I want to see a few guys at the same time. I mean, I have been out with a few, and I want to see both of them. I don't want to lie to either, of course, they are two very different people, and I am not a user. Instead I am of this mindset that I want to be with both. Does that make me a user? Depends on what they want. If they are looking for something long term and serious, then you are wasting their time (both of them). 2
Mrin Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 They important thing is not to lie to them. This. Quoted for truth
kaylan Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I am in a new mindset these days, which is that I want to see a few guys at the same time. I mean, I have been out with a few, and I want to see both of them. I don't want to lie to either, of course, they are two very different people, and I am not a user. Instead I am of this mindset that I want to be with both. Does that make me a user? Be honest that you are dating other people and that they are free to do the same. Though for health reasons I dont get physically with more than a girl at a time myself. 2
ThatMan Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Let me take a guess - You don't want to talk about this topic with them because you know that neither of them would approve, right? If an important reason why they're spending time with you is because you're telling a lie of omission then you're playing them. You're perfectly free to date multiple people and you aren't obligated to tell them anything. Why should it matter what label you put to it?
faithfully Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 There is no need for em both to know, If you wanted to be exclusive then fair enough but if they ask ya then tell the truth, Otherwise i wouldnt say anything
David87 Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 There is no need for em both to know, If you wanted to be exclusive then fair enough but if they ask ya then tell the truth, Otherwise i wouldnt say anything But what's the point in seeing them both ? To get serious with one of them? Am I right? What if they find out? And If you're honest about the situation then you might lose the both.
Author mortensorchid Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 One of the two in question I know sees other women. The other? Not sure, but quite honestly I'm not asking him right now. Kind of that "ignorance is bliss" mentality. If they knew? I don't know how they would feel. Because, like I said, ignorance is bliss. Then again, I also realize that if I was to say "Yes, I see other guys" to them one would care a bit more than the other. And yet ... Another part of me says "Why shouldn't I? Guys do it all the time to women left and right!" Think of when you are Internet dating, chances are you have a different person every night of the week for a few days/weeks if you play the cards right. And think of it (at least in my case), what's the harm? You never hear from 85% of those you go out on an Internet date again with. What's the harm to anyone?
hasaquestion Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 One of the two in question I know sees other women. The other? Not sure, but quite honestly I'm not asking him right now. Kind of that "ignorance is bliss" mentality. If they knew? I don't know how they would feel. Because, like I said, ignorance is bliss. Then again, I also realize that if I was to say "Yes, I see other guys" to them one would care a bit more than the other. And yet ... Another part of me says "Why shouldn't I? Guys do it all the time to women left and right!" Think of when you are Internet dating, chances are you have a different person every night of the week for a few days/weeks if you play the cards right. And think of it (at least in my case), what's the harm? You never hear from 85% of those you go out on an Internet date again with. What's the harm to anyone? The problem is, you're not telling them only because you know they'll stop putting out if you do. I'm all for putting your dick in whatever you want, or vice versa, but there has to be some honesty there. There's nothing wrong with sleeping with n number of people at the same time. There's something wrong with making n number of people think you're the only one in their sex life.
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