HeartStompedOn Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 My ex left me and I've been trying to get back with her since, but I've just grown tired of her ****. She says she can see a future with us in it but says she just don't want a relationship right now. I've begged and pleaded for her to try. She won't but she begs and pleads for me to be her friend. I say no. So I've been asking to sit down and talk to her about everything face-to-face since Thursday. She refuses each time. Says she's too tired. I mean she have been opening up her job at like 4 and 5 these last two mornings, but still. If something is important you make time. Anyway, I wanted to talk but she preferred over the phone. So when I begin to talk and ask her different things about the relationship, do she think it's worth salvaging and so on.. she just starts laughing and giggling. Just acting childish. At one point she started jokingly calling me a ***** and a ****. Then I'm like words don't bother me and she continues acting foolish so I just said **** it and hung up. Soon after, she calls me and I didn't pick up. She did that about 3 times and then texts, "We're dun" with a peace sign. Then she texts, "Abortion?" and then says, "Now you know!!" After all of that she calls some more and I ignore some more and then she says that we need to talk and then says, "Fine I'll get rid of it on my own u stupid ******." I don't know if she's just trying to get attention or pregnant for real because she has been feeling different as of late (what she tells me). I've been trying but I don't think it's worth it anymore. I love her, but her actions are ridiculous. She's older than me, with a child and behaving like this. My question to you guys is should I continue to ignore? Should I give it another shot by just doing NC or go completely away like I'm planning on doing now.
David87 Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Yeah Ignore her. She treated you like trash, has no respect for you and thinks that she can do whatever she wants, prove her wrong. 2
Tressugar Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Ignore her. Time will tell if she is really pregnant or not. 2
Chi townD Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 My feelings on this, she's not pregnant. No young girl hides that. As soon as she found out, she would have been like, "Hey, we gotta talk and we got to talk NOW! We've got a problem." 2
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 How old are you people? If you're under 22 then she's just being a drama-queen... To use an unwanted pregnancy as a tool with which to goad you, hurt you and provoke you into some kind of response, is despicable and insensitive. Millions of women go through this procedure every year and while I do NOT wish to instigate a debate on the pros cons, rights or wrongs of such a procedure, what she is doing is at best manipulative and at worst, twisted. Ignore her completely and do not give her any form or amount of satisfaction at all, by revealing that you even give a damn about her little histrionics. 2
Author HeartStompedOn Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 (edited) I'm 22 and she's 23, if that helps any. Also, she already has a child and she was really sick last week. I actually had to take care of her by bringing her medicine and etc.. Edited April 7, 2014 by HeartStompedOn
Lifegoezon Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 At 23 she's barely 'older'. You're both still young and she's obviously not very mature. Nobody handles unplanned pregnancy in that flippant way, she's being manipulative and childish. Keep away from her. She's your ex, it's not your job to look after her when she's sick. 1
Author HeartStompedOn Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 We were actually together at the time of her sickness. I haven't talked to her since that spat. She's at work though but I just can't bring myself to contact her. I'm so hurt you guys. Like, I haven't done anything to her. She got mad at me because we argued a lot about her coworker/friend who I felt was disrespecting me and our relationship. Like, she treats me like crap for no reason. I can see if I had put my hands on her, mentally abused her or whatever.. I've done none of it. She is just treating me like crap for no reason. It sucks because I actually love this girl. She claimed she loved me.
Chi townD Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 She has to demonize you in her head to ease the guilt of dumping you. She dumped you for a reason; therefore, she has to amplify that reasoning to ease that guilt. She has to convince herself that treating you like crap is justified and that you were a terrible boyfriend so it makes her decision easier and with merit. You did nothing wrong.
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