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What is the best way to progress to a lover relationship with my friend?


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I have a major crush on a girl I met in a university class. We're pretty good friends, but she's exactly what I would want in a significant other. I'm willing to take a leap of faith and ask her out this week. It sucks, because if I ask her in class, then we have a mutual friend who is in our class and it would make things weird. Her and our mutual friend are close, and I cannot exactly tell if they are together, so I figure the best way is to not ask in front of him. I was planning on either calling her up or texting her. It's not exactly asking her out. I was going to invite her to a charity 5k run that I'm doing with my friends. So, in this case texting is not weird or thoughtless, but a call definitely would speak volumes about my character to her. This girl may already know I like her, just because guys like me are oblivious that we are so obvious with our intentions. Mine being that I really like her a lot and want to try a relationship.

 

I was dumped last year, so I have a little bit of rejection problems.

 

To me, it sounds like a friend inviting another to an outing. Yet, like I said, I'm sure she probably knows my ulterior motive, which isn't bad. Last time I poured my heart out to a girl, she crushed it. I was dumped exactly this time last year, and have been searching myself to find confidence in who I am. I think I'm ready, but am really scared of the rejection.

 

Should I call her or text her? The text leaves it open to strategizing what I will say, yet the call is more sincere and shows I have all of that built up confidence.

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