AnneT1985 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 (edited) Hi y'all I wanted to put this out there and see your thoughts. I hope this makes sense. I heard a complaint from a friend of mine and reflected on it and now I want to see what y'all think please and thank you. She was complaining about a mutual friend of ours named D and this isn't the first time I've heard one of our friends make similar statements about D. The thing with D is that she is not an overly outwardly emotional person and keeps to herself a lot. To me that is a very D trait and it makes her who she is. Some of our friends seem bothered by it and I don't really get why other than they think she isn't happy for them a lot of the time. For example, she isn't one to gush if you tell her you are pregnant or engaged, but she will personally mail you a congratulations card. She won't facebook you on your birthday- she will mail you a card. She will leave events early but almost always shows up. To me she is showing she cares a lot...in her own way which I find lovely and personal. Instead of talking, she is showing. So I guess I'm asking do y'all have a friend like this or are you similar? Do you find this "not caring" or very much caring? I wanted to see what y'all thought and if you would find D not a very good friend like some of my other friends seem to...and if I am missing something. Or is it a "neediness" thing on my other friends parts? Thanks so much y'all! xx Edited April 6, 2014 by AnneT1985
Valen Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Your friend D is an introvert. I'm also an introvert and I do the same thing. I don't Facebook, hardly go to social gathering. When I do show up, I will mingle for a little bit and then leave early. That is our way of showing we care. All your other friends are the extrovert type. The main difference between introvert and extrovert is introvert's energy gets drain when they interact with people, where as extrovert get more energy from socializing with people. That's why introvert tend to spend a lot of alone time to recharge their batteries. We are just wired differently from extroverts. Extroverts don't seem to understand it and think there is something wrong or like we are depressed or something. But we are not. We are perfectly happy being a quiet not-so-outgoing friend.
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