firsttracks Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I want to get a female response to this. Ladies, do you care how many people the guy your into has been with? I guess I grew up with the idea that every woman wanted a man who's only been with a couple people because he's not a pig like much of the male population is portrayed as. I always wanted to be that diamond in the rough but as a consequence to that, I didn't experience as much as I could have and I'm still kind of a rookie at serious relationships. I guess in relationships I always advertised how few people I slept with. Some girls ate it up because I'm one of the good guys. This past winter I dated around quite a bit casually for the first time ever. I learned alot. I met one girl who didn't care about partners and when I said the number of people I've been with she was mostly concerned if I would be emotionally mature enough for her. Another girl I hooked up with a couple times casually said she actually prefers a man with more partners because he's better in bed and is better at navigating the relationship/issues that come up. Another girl was mildly impressed that I haven't slept around, and she admitted she totally slept around but regrets it and wishes she would have only been with one guy her entire life. So I've gotten responses all over the place. Would you prefer a guy with fewer partners or would you see that as he might not be as emotionally mature? I don't judge, I've dated women who can't remember how many guys they have slept with. They are better in bed, it's awesome, yet...I think when you get into the 20+ to not being able to remember range (just in my experience) there is a pattern of picking the wrong guys, emotional issues, self esteem issues...I don't care so much as to how many dicks have been inside of you but more so that you are mentally stable.
Candy_Pants Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I don't care how many dicks have been in you I care if you are emotionally stable. Exactly. That can apply to people with 0-3000 sexual partners. I've had a few lovers who had high numbers. They were gorgeous, foreign, and gentlemanly. It's really no wonder why so many women had sex with them. I don't care about numbers. And if I'm dating someone who does care, we wouldn't be compatible.
Els Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Not every woman wants a man who's only had sex in LTRs. I do, though. It's not a necessity but I've found myself most compatible with such guys. So yes, the girls who like you for you are out there.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I want to get a female response to this. Ladies, do you care how many people the guy your into has been with? I guess I grew up with the idea that every woman wanted a man who's only been with a couple people because he's not a pig like much of the male population is portrayed as. I always wanted to be that diamond in the rough but as a consequence to that, I didn't experience as much as I could have and I'm still kind of a rookie at serious relationships. I guess in relationships I always advertised how few people I slept with. Some girls ate it up because I'm one of the good guys. This past winter I dated around quite a bit casually for the first time ever. I learned alot. I met one girl who didn't care about partners and when I said the number of people I've been with she was mostly concerned if I would be emotionally mature enough for her. Another girl I hooked up with a couple times casually said she actually prefers a man with more partners because he's better in bed and is better at navigating the relationship/issues that come up. Another girl was mildly impressed that I haven't slept around, and she admitted she totally slept around but regrets it and wishes she would have only been with one guy her entire life. So I've gotten responses all over the place. Would you prefer a guy with fewer partners or would you see that as he might not be as emotionally mature? I don't judge, I've dated women who can't remember how many guys they have slept with. They are better in bed, it's awesome, yet...I think when you get into the 20+ to not being able to remember range (just in my experience) there is a pattern of picking the wrong guys, emotional issues, self esteem issues...I don't care so much as to how many dicks have been inside of you but more so that you are mentally stable. I've been with 3 men which is considered very low these days it seems. I simply don't ask the question of a man anymore because a large number of people he's had sex with is a severe turn off to me. I have the mentality that whoever you are bonking you are bonking their exs too - if a bloke his 70 by roughly my age (26) I don't wanna be sharing. That's nasty! I also expect that if I was a lady who had forgotten how many men she had done it with a man to reject me too. If I were a bloke I wouldn't want to go where umpteen men have gone before 2
iiiii Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I don't really mind, except that I guess I'd be a little turned off by a guy at either end of the spectrum (a virgin would be a bit disconcerting, and someone who had slept with hundreds of people just seems a bit... yucky). Having said that, neither of those would be a deal breaker if I really liked the guy concerned.
d0nnivain Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Some will care, others won't. After a certain age, it becomes somewhat unreasonable to expect every person you meet to be a virgin. I'm more interested in disease free & that he's faithful to me. What he did before he met me, doesn't really have an effect on me, unless he has an STD I could catch.
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