paloma22 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 (edited) So I will try to shorten a very long story. Last summer I dated a guy I really liked. Things were going well until we had one fairly large argument which made us both reconsider our compatibility. I also told him I was moving away for graduate school. Things sort of transitioned to FWB, and we ended things on a good note, but did not stay together. Fall came, and he came to visit. Not me specifically, but we did see each other, and hooked up while he was here. He also told me he was seeing someone (I've been dating too), but it was not serious (I realize this is bad of me, it was very unlike me to do but we have this deep undeniable chemistry). Meanwhile, he told me that he didn't think he would feel the way he did when he saw me, etc. He also confessed he was in a rut, and I convinced him to finally book this trip to india he had been planning... Fast forward to now. We haven't kept in touch, but I saw on fb he is now in india. I am fairly sure he's single, as he went to india for 3 months. I am back in town this summer for a job, and decided to send him a msg with just "Hi" the other day. To my great surprise, he responded a few days later with "Hi! How are you? Its funny, I was just thinking about you" Does anybody have any idea what this could mean? I keep thinking about him too, and have this sort of false hope about what 'could be' this summer. I know he made it clear before that we weren't compatible (and I agreed), but we do have this amazing chemistry that i think we both cannot deny. Edited April 6, 2014 by paloma22
ExpatInItaly Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 So I will try to shorten a very long story. Last summer I dated a guy I really liked. Things were going well until we had one fairly large argument which made us both reconsider our compatibility. I also told him I was moving away for graduate school. Things sort of transitioned to FWB, and we ended things on a good note, but did not stay together. Fall came, and he came to visit. Not me specifically, but we did see each other, and hooked up while he was here. He also told me he was seeing someone (I've been dating too), but it was not serious (I realize this is bad of me, it was very unlike me to do but we have this deep undeniable chemistry). Meanwhile, he told me that he didn't think he would feel the way he did when he saw me, etc. He also confessed he was in a rut, and I convinced him to finally book this trip to india he had been planning... Fast forward to now. We haven't kept in touch, but I saw on fb he is now in india. I am fairly sure he's single, as he went to india for 3 months. I am back in town this summer for a job, and decided to send him a msg with just "Hi" the other day. To my great surprise, he responded a few days later with "Hi! How are you? Its funny, I was just thinking about you" Does anybody have any idea what this could mean? I keep thinking about him too, and have this sort of false hope about what 'could be' this summer. I know he made it clear before that we weren't compatible (and I agreed), but we do have this amazing chemistry that i think we both cannot deny. It means he was thinking about you. Don't try to search for some hidden meaning. Don't start dreaming about what could be, when you've only had this brief exchange. If you continue to stay in touch, something could develop..but unless and until that happens, I wouldn't put much weight into those words. What do you want from him, exactly? It sounds like he doesn't see a future for you, given he thinks you're not compatible. Are you hoping he'll change his mind, or are you just looking for something physical for a couple months?
Author paloma22 Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 It means he was thinking about you. Don't try to search for some hidden meaning. Don't start dreaming about what could be, when you've only had this brief exchange. If you continue to stay in touch, something could develop..but unless and until that happens, I wouldn't put much weight into those words. What do you want from him, exactly? It sounds like he doesn't see a future for you, given he thinks you're not compatible. Are you hoping he'll change his mind, or are you just looking for something physical for a couple months? Thats a good question. We are very different people. I am in graduate school and greatly value academics. He is somewhat of a free spirit and doesn't value academics/wants a fairly simple lifestyle. I think we both acknowledged last summer that at our age (26), we wanted to be responsible and not pursue a relationship (long distance at that) unless it was worth it. Regardless, we ended up continuing our relationship until i went away, and then i got busy, we sort of lost touch, etc. But I'm going to be back in town for 4 months, and we do have a lot in common. When we dated last summer, we went to concerts, biking, cooked meals together, normal date stuff and i think we both really enjoy each others company. He's definitely the best sex I've ever had, so i also miss that. But i can't deny that there is more than just sex as well. Which is difficult because deep down i know we share very different personal values and life expectations. I guess I'm trying to be rational and realistic but i also miss the passion we had, and his company.
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