spiderowl Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 OK, I gave this guy on a dating site my mobile number. He didn't ring for, well a week or two. No problem, I wasn't concerned. Then he rang me at 1am and left a message on my mobile saying it was on the offchance I was up. I am often up late but it seems wrong to me to ring someone for the first time at 1am. I'm not going to pursue anything with this guy now as he must have been drunk or something. Why would someone think it's OK to do this? Neither of us are young and this does not seem a grown up thing to do. What do you think?
zebracolors Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Yeah Its a little inconsiderate of him to do when calling for the first time to someone he doesn't know much about. I wouldn't tolerate it, nor would I do it to someone unless they told me specifically it was ok.
Author spiderowl Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 Thanks zebracolors. I hadn't told him it was OK to ring at that time. I had told him I was often up late, but seriously I never expected him to call at such an unsociable time. I can only assume he'd been drinking or something though he didn't sound drunk in his message.
Mrin Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Seems like a pretty bad way to make a first impression.
Author spiderowl Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 I would agree with that. As you can tell, it didn't make a good impression.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 There is only one reason why he called you at 1 AM asking if you were up. 5
GemmaUK Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 There is only one reason why he called you at 1 AM asking if you were up. I agree. I'd be blocking his number. 1
Author spiderowl Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 He didn't seem like that kind of guy. Dunno, just didn't seem right as a first contact. It wasn't as if we'd just been chatting online minutes before and agreed to continue the chat on the phone.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 OK, I gave this guy on a dating site my mobile number. He didn't ring for, well a week or two. No problem, I wasn't concerned. Then he rang me at 1am and left a message on my mobile saying it was on the offchance I was up. I am often up late but it seems wrong to me to ring someone for the first time at 1am. I'm not going to pursue anything with this guy now as he must have been drunk or something. Why would someone think it's OK to do this? Neither of us are young and this does not seem a grown up thing to do. What do you think? Screams booty call!!!! 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 He didn't seem like that kind of guy. Dunno, just didn't seem right as a first contact. It wasn't as if we'd just been chatting online minutes before and agreed to continue the chat on the phone. Darling they never seem like "that kind of guy" until they do things like this or ask you to send them nudey pictures. I've learn to expect that and if they don't they get serious brownie points. Such a shame that not being a sex pest has to be on your list of requirements these days rather than personality, politeness and kindness 3
Zahara Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 He didn't seem like that kind of guy. . You don't know the guy well enough to make that statement. They all don't put forward who they really are but when they show you off behavior, pay attention. They're showing you who they are. 2
gaius Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I'll call when I know she probably won't answer if I'm not that into talking with her. And I can feel like I fulfilled my obligation by calling.
HappyLove Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 He's a loser. Block him. Very disrespectful. And don't assume that a guy doesn't "seem" a certain way. You've never even met him don't assume anything. Don't even assume that after you've met. People will eventually show you what they're about. Luckily he showed his true colors before you wasted any time on him. 2
Author spiderowl Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 I'll call when I know she probably won't answer if I'm not that into talking with her. And I can feel like I fulfilled my obligation by calling. It was his suggestion to swap numbers and call. He seemed interested and sounded a nice guy, bit dreamy but otherwise OK. I didn't get any innuendo from him. Then he does that, what an idiot!
Author spiderowl Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 It doesn't help. I don't want someone that impulsive. I'm not sure I want anyone at all. I'm beginning to think dating sites are asylums for married guys, weirdos, those with extremely low intelligence and perverts. Where are all the decent guys? 1
HappyLove Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 It doesn't help. I don't want someone that impulsive. I'm not sure I want anyone at all. I'm beginning to think dating sites are asylums for married guys, weirdos, those with extremely low intelligence and perverts. Where are all the decent guys? That about sums it up!
J21 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Where are all the decent guys? Not piquing interest or getting ignored lol
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