Shooter Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Gonna be a long and a short version to maximize my responses. Short version will be at the end of this post. Long version: We have been together 4 years. I took her virginity and was her first everything. About 1.5 years ago we broke up for like 2 months. In that two months she had sex with at least 5 or 6 guys that i know of. She only told me about one guy. I found out about the rest by myself. I was really upset but i got over it because i figured she was young and wanted to experiment and had gotten that all out of her system. Fastforward to this week. I had to go out of town for business. I only expected to be gone for a few hours. But me and my partner ran into a really good investment and i ended up being gone for 4 or 5 days. I didn't have a lot of contact with her because me and my partner were sharing hotel rooms and together pretty much 24/7. Even though i wasn't calling her i wasn't cheating either. I was thinking about her the whole time and couldn't wait to go home to her. I actually ended up calling a cab so that i could leave early on the last day. Left a lot of money on the table and paid 130 dollars for a cab back home. I got home and she wasn't even there. I text her/call her and get no response. Finally a few hours later she texts me back and says shes at her friends family gathering but will be home soon. She comes home at about 2 in the morning covered in makeup, skin tight short dress and heals, tipsy and high. I was kinda upset because i felt like she had lied about her whereabouts/the time she was coming home. Not too mad though because i had no proof. Then i decided to go on her phone. She not only downloaded tindr but she had text conversations with a few guys talking about meeting up. Not one guy, but a few. I confronted her with the evidence. She immediatly breaks down into tears. First she says she doesn't know what i'm talking about. Then she says her phone software updated just before i came home so it must have somehow downloaded tinder by itself and restored old messages from 1.5 years ago. I told her a million times that i'm not stupid and her story makes no sense. I was so frustrated i was actually in tears at one point. But she refuses to tell the truth. She swears on her family, on god, on her grandmother that the phone must have done it not her. I told her to gtfo of my house because she was a liar. She broke down crying like a baby and begging me to stay claiming she would never lie to me and she loves me and worships me so much. Obvious lies. She claims she'll do anything to stay with me that she'll start being a perfect girlfriend and cleaning house. That when she gets Registered as a Nurse she'll give me all of her paychecks. That she'll go out and get an after school job now and start paying the rent and giving me cash if i'll please just stay with her. Honestly shes appealed to the businessman in me. Beautiful girl with no morals or self esteem. She can make me a lot of money if she gets a sales job. But on the other hand its so obvious that shes lying. So obvious she was probably out with another guy even the night that i came home. I feel sick. I actually loved this girl and this is how i am re payed? I took care of her. I really loved her. What should i do? She was the only girl for me. The one i really wanted to marry. I don't want any other girls. But now i don't want her either. Short version: Girl cheated on me. I know for a fact that she did. Then she made up the dumbest lie in the world and she is sticking to that lie. I told her to gtfo of my house. She broke down crying. Begging me to stay with her. Saying she'll start taking better care of the house, that when she gets registered as a nurse she'll give me all of her checks, that she'll go out and get a part time job to pay the rent and give me cash if i'll just stay with her. Basically saying she'll do anything to stay with me. But she still won't admit that she is lying. What should i do?
Cunning_Linguist Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 You know what to do. If you hold any standard for the people you spend time with and have self-respect then you break all contact and move on. She betrayed you. If loyalty isn't a big deal for you then take her back or whatever, but if it is...you know what to do. 1
Eivuwan Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 She thinks she can bribe you with money to cover her lies? Do you think you can ever have a healthy relationship with her? 3
HappyLove Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 "Honestly shes appealed to the businessman in me. Beautiful girl with no morals or self esteem. She can make me a lot of money if she gets a sales job." Huh? So you're a PIMP? 4
Larry56 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 KICK HER A** TO THE CURB Seriously, if you take her back after she puts you through that kinda stuff, she'll have no respect for you and just do the same thing *again and again*. Kick her out and see how quickly she comes back in a few months sobbing and crying about how you were "the best" she ever had blah blah blah
Author Shooter Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 "Honestly shes appealed to the businessman in me. Beautiful girl with no morals or self esteem. She can make me a lot of money if she gets a sales job." Huh? So you're a PIMP? No. But i am a very money oriented person. Building a power relationship is one of my goals. So if she can provide funds i'm not sure i should turn them down... And when i say sales i mean actual sales lol. Like at the mall. If she can find a part time job that also pays commission she could bring me home a decent check.
pickflicker Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 No. But i am a very money oriented person. Building a power relationship is one of my goals. So if she can provide funds i'm not sure i should turn them down... And when i say sales i mean actual sales lol. Like at the mall. If she can find a part time job that also pays commission she could bring me home a decent check. What? I was going to empathise with you, until I realised you use relationships as an income stream. No wonder she cheated on you.
gaius Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 No. But i am a very money oriented person. Building a power relationship is one of my goals. So if she can provide funds i'm not sure i should turn them down... And when i say sales i mean actual sales lol. Like at the mall. If she can find a part time job that also pays commission she could bring me home a decent check. If you can get over the fact she'll be blowing a lot of the guys that provide that commission then all the power to you.
Author Shooter Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 What? I was going to empathise with you, until I realised you use relationships as an income stream. No wonder she cheated on you. Wow thanks for the insight.
pickflicker Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Wow thanks for the insight. You're welcome. Do you think your views of women are appropriate in this situation? Or any, for that matter?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 No. But i am a very money oriented person. Building a power relationship is one of my goals. So if she can provide funds i'm not sure i should turn them down... And when i say sales i mean actual sales lol. Like at the mall. If she can find a part time job that also pays commission she could bring me home a decent check. Good lord. I think you've both dodged bullets in this case. Leave each other alone. 1
soccerrprp Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Shooter, I can't help feeling a sense of relief for your gf too. You're likely not a good, decent guy based on the way you view relationships, money and power. I need to get back to teaching my students and kids and arming them to combat people like you who make this world more complicated, crappy. 4
HappyLove Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 It all makes sense why she was promising to give him her paychecks! This is so creepy. 2
thedj10show Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I confronted her with the evidence. She immediatly breaks down into tears. First she says she doesn't know what i'm talking about. Then she says her phone software updated just before i came home so it must have somehow downloaded tinder by itself and restored old messages from 1.5 years ago. As a computer engineer, this made me laugh heartily. The only way this would be remotely plausible is if she had an old phone with Tinder on it, and then signed into a new phone with her Google Play account. Then the new phone would download all of the apps that were linked to the account. But then the app would have to magically log itself in as the Google Play account does not hold user names/passwords. And the conversations are all date-stamped. Basically no way in hell this is true. Sorry about the way you had to find out. Tell her politely to GTFO!
Eivuwan Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 No. But i am a very money oriented person. Building a power relationship is one of my goals. So if she can provide funds i'm not sure i should turn them down... And when i say sales i mean actual sales lol. Like at the mall. If she can find a part time job that also pays commission she could bring me home a decent check. If relationships are this shallow to you already, why does it matter if she cheats or not...? Seems like neither of you really care about each other. You're just using each other for something.
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