Gher2154 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Hey thanks for looking. So since 2012, my buddy would always invite me to his parties, marriages, birthdays, and other events, and I would go to the them. He introduced me to one of his cousins and I immediately fell for her. The whole day we spent just chilling on his bed, getting close, and just giving each other random but tight hugs. This happened every time we would see each other. Her name is Paola. So in October 2, 2013 I met someone named Andrea and we fell for each other too. We dated and broke up in December and we got back I'm March 18 of this year. Well we broke up because I just really wasn't sure about the relationship and I promised her I would not leave her but you know I did. My friends would tell me she would flirt with others, and even ended up kissing another guy. She admitted it too. Well I like to party to paisa or Mexican music, get some soda as drinks, and have a good time. Andrea is socially awkward and is really insecure and has depression with anxiety, and she hates everything that has to do with Mexicans even tho she is half Mexican. Well we got back together because we always just end up having feelings for each other. We broke up like 4 times in our 3 month relationship. Our last one was the longest. When we got back together she is really different and seems less insecure and has not haven breakdowns in such a long time, and we both regret hurting each other. I told her I would never break up with her again because I was so happy to have her back. Back to Paola, we hung during the months me and Andrea were not together and we had a blast. We would do everything together and we have a loooot of things in common. But ever since I got back with my girlfriend we barely talk. So we saw each other again one day and we just totally were together that whole day. We walked around and flirted and we would just stare at each other that whole time. I know she wants me and I want her. My friend told me that she even is telling everyone I am her new boyfriend, and my friend knows about Andrea too. So now I'm stuck. My girlfriend Andrea is really happy with me I can tell cuz she subtweets about me all the time, got a bit clingy and just keeps talking to me all day. Like I said, I promised her so many things that we would last more than next year and we cod have future together. But I like Paola because we are just perfect for each other. I'm confused I can't let me girlfriend down again and I can't miss a golden opportunity. I want both of them but I know there can only be one. I'm stuck and I don't plan on cheating on my girlfriend. My friend also tells me that Andrea isn't for me because I need to start focusing on my happiness too. My friend also told me that during our breakup up she would make out with a lot of guys and tells me that I'm just that other guy in the list, and that she is using me for self pleasure. And guys I like to put others before me because if I was conceited I would of left Andrea for Paola. The only bad thing about Paola is that I won't be able to see her everyday and I see my girlfriend Andrea almost everyday. I'm just stuck on who to choose. I'm just a 16 year old boy? What should I know? I need the advice from someone experienced about this, preferably an adult, thank again for your time.
Hopeful30 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Dump her and move on. Promising you will never break up with someone is extremely stupid in my opinion. You don't know the future nor where your relationship will end up. Being with someone while secretly wanting a relationship with someone else is extremely unfair to your girlfriend. Eventually you may even start resenting her because she is "holding you back" from pursuing women you actually want, and you will hurt her. I never understood why it's so hard for people to dump someone when they genuinely want to or aren't that into the relationship. We just make it harder for ourselves if you ask me.
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 You are 16 years old. You are too young to be tied down to any one person & too young to be spouting on about forever. Your relationship with Andrea may have run its course. These things happen when you are a teen. People grow & change. It's OK to end your relationship with Andrea if that is what you want to do.
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