ExposedBrick Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I met a girl at a bar on Thursday. We chatted for a few hours and had a few drinks. Things went really well I thought. She gave me her number and a peck on the cheek when we parted ways. We had discussed going to a unique breakfast restaurant the following Sunday. I sent her a text Friday asking if she wanted to go, she said she would love to, what time? I suggested an early time based off what the company website said, but she never responded. With this potentially being tomorrow, I'm not sure what to do. I hate it when people flake out, especially if I have to look desperate to confirm the flake out. I did tell her somewhat late in the evening around 10 pm, not sure if she blew me off or fell asleep or what. At this point, I just want to confirm the flake off so I can plan something else with my time. Not sure what to do. Send another text? Call? ARghh!
soccerrprp Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Just wait. You'll get your answer one way or another.
Survivor12 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 What time is it where you are now? I'm assuming that you're in a much different time zone since it's only 8 am here.
Author ExposedBrick Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Just wait. You'll get your answer one way or another. Not sure what you mean? She just won't respond? I'd like to make other plans and I'd probably go out to the pubs with my friends and sleep late the next morning if this is a no go. I'm on the East Coast of the US, so yes I'm being a bit impatient, its 9:20 am.
Survivor12 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Yes, you are being very impatient. Maybe next time you ask a girl out on a date, you would benefit by calling her instead of texting and would save yourself the agony of not getting an instant response. As for this time, it is possible that she is waiting for you to put forth the effort to call her. So, if you haven't heard back from her by mid to late afternoon, give her a call. Any sooner is going to come off as impatient. Good luck.
soccerrprp Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Not sure what you mean? She just won't respond? I'd like to make other plans and I'd probably go out to the pubs with my friends and sleep late the next morning if this is a no go. I'm on the East Coast of the US, so yes I'm being a bit impatient, its 9:20 am. Wait for her. If there's a time difference, give her some time to respond. If she doesn't, she's not interested. There's always a possibility that she didn't get that last text, but unlikely. You need to decide when you want to start planning for something else. If you think that she deserves another quick text or call before you make other plans, do it.
Author ExposedBrick Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Yes, you are being very impatient. Maybe next time you ask a girl out on a date, you would benefit by calling her instead of texting and would save yourself the agony of not getting an instant response. As for this time, it is possible that she is waiting for you to put forth the effort to call her. So, if you haven't heard back from her by mid to late afternoon, give her a call. Any sooner is going to come off as impatient. Good luck. So you think calling is preferred in general? Everyone is so hard working and communicates via text in my city that I usually think calling is not practical. Anyway, I'll be working until the early evening, should I try to call or text? I hate acting needy or impatient, but usually if they are interested there is a prompt response. Part of the reason I think texting is better is it's so easy to respond to. Any thought??
Survivor12 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 If a guy asked me out on a first date via text, there would be no date. A first date and you're concerned about convenience and practicality? It's a DATE, for crying out loud, not a business meeting or a meet-up with a friend you've known most of your life. (By the way, although I may not respond to a text under such circumstances, I would, in fact, respond to a phone call even if it was to say no, thank you.)
Valen Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 If a guy asked me out on a first date via text, there would be no date. So if you meet a really great guy that you find extremely attractive. You two bonded instantly and exchange numbers. And then he txt you for a date, you would decline? You would throw away a chance to find out if he was the one for you, just because he txt you? 1
starrynightz45 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Always call for first dates. I'm not saying I'd write off a guy I really liked if he texted me instead of called, but he wouldn't be earning any points.
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