jordanr1994 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 So me and my ex girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up 4 weeks ago. She loves me and sees us having a future together, but just isnt happy right now and doesnt want to rely on me for her happiness, or anyone else for that matter. She said she wasnt leaving me for someone else. We have both gone to uni and i noticed an immediate change in her. I immediately went into no contact and she messaged me at the 3 week stage. I replied. She then text again a week later and i didnt reply. Long story short we met up today and she says that she loves me but isnt in love with me. She has found a new guy within the first week and is sleeping with him already! Something she would never do before. She says she would get back with me but is scared she would feel the same in a few months, which i totally agree with. She understands we cant be friends right now. She said that she thinks i am the one in her future and we will be together again one day as she doesnt see her long term future without me in it. But right now she has to do this which i totally understand. She is young and is obviously showing some signs of Gigs. I knew the break up was coming from a few weeks before so it wasnt a shock to me My question is, is this guy a rebound as she still loves me. or is it serious?
ahthepain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I feel for you bro. Quite similar to my situation. My ex just wants time. She says "I still love you, just not in the way that you would like". She needs space and time and I can understand that she is only 22 (I'm 24). She has agreed to go to a relationship counciller with me however next week. I'm sure it won't change her mind but might give me that little bit of closure I need. She also said she is not looking for anyone to sleep with or new to date, and she even turned down a guy that she really fancied for sex so that's a good sign, however she is young and I'm sure somewhere down the line she will get that giddy feeling with another guy. It sounds like she just wants to try out new guys, but it's very unfair on you as you can't be expected to wait for god knows how long.
Author jordanr1994 Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Thanks for the reply Nice to know other people in the same situation. Your situation seems good, id be happy if my ex wanted to try counselling. She is only 19 though so i actually want her to go meet other guys, so if we do end up back togther we will be such more rounded people. I got my closure today and im just ready to mve forward and start dating again. I put this girl on such a high level. I thought she was perfect and id never do any better. But im an attractive, sporty guy. If she doesnt want that anymore right now then im sure there a other girls that will.
ahthepain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Dam right man. I'm not sure how you are able to cope with this so well lol. I was devistated and still am. I too kind of want her to go out for a month or two and meet new guys, because I'm sure she won't be as happy as she was during our great times, but I too can not just hang around for months or even years while she finds herself. I will have to move on I fear and if she comes back sometime in the future cross that bridge when it happens.
Author jordanr1994 Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 the 4 weeks no contact helped me move on so much. at first i did it to get her to miss me, but towards the end i did it for myself. Now starting no contact again and not looking to break it for a couple months. I dont think she will contact me for a while, and im happy about that. the thought of her sleeping with this new guy is killing me as we had such a healthy sex life. But its bound to happen at some point, and im sure i will end up having a sexual relationship with someone else before we get back together. So being angry i would just be contradicting myself. She said she can see how much ive changed, and if we did get back together it would be for good and she could trust me Stay strong
maestrok Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 WOW really? You really bought that BS ... she's basically saying, I'm not that into you but just in case I've got no one to ****, I might keep you around for awhile... 1
Author jordanr1994 Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 got this text this evening.. I have a couple of your hoodies here if you want them back. Ill be out about 12-4 tomorrow if you are going past x Should i reply. im in no contact ans she knows that. but i dont want to see rude... I guess it doesn't really need a reply though.
ponchsox Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Nothing helps losing pussy more than finding new pussy.
bluegreen Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 WOW really? You really bought that BS ... she's basically saying, I'm not that into you but just in case I've got no one to ****, I might keep you around for awhile... Some people are just begging to be bitch slapped. If she pulls this crap one more time I truly hope you will laugh in her face. Telling her to f... off would go long way out in pushing her of that am high as sky ego trip she is on.
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