loco Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Everything was going well with my girlfriend, we were engaged for a while and she was proud of it, we were about to move out to a place of our own, when we went out with her friends trouble started. they met some guys they saw as attractive and her single friends started talking to them, but the guys would ask about her andso she got caught up it it all and they exchanged phone numbers without me knowing. later she told me they went to see the guys again n i told her i didnt like that, she got cross with me and ended it all, its a long story how it all happened but we had an argument and since then we didnt cotact each other. i really love her but all my friends are telling me she is acting slutty i dont know what to do she really hurt me, but i miss her so much. i want to call her but i also want her to be committed to me n not just get chatted up by anyone that crosses her path.
Merin Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 There isn't such thing as a "perfect relationship" thats first.. Second.. You were engaged for "awhile" what does that mean? Last.. She isn't ready to be in an exclusive relationship.. she is still looking around and meeting other people.. this has nothing to do with her friends.. it was her decision to give this other guy her number, and if she was into the relationship with you, this is something she wouldn't have done. Her "acting slutty" I don't want to sound mean here.. but it's interesting to me how it seems once people break up they go from saying that the other person was/is amazing and wonderful.. to saying the other person is a slut/skank/trick/ho based on the idea that they no longer want a relationship with them but maybe with someone else...
VirginiaBob Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Dude, she was dating other guys when she was with you. Soonafter, she left you. It doesn't take a rocket scientist. Move on.
Author loco Posted February 1, 2005 Author Posted February 1, 2005 we were engaged for a couple of months, never really set the date but were planning it out. When we wouldsee each other it felt right, not like she was hiding anything or unable to share her feelings with me, we were very close and would see each other every day, then it ewnt upside down. we had a heated argument but thats not how i want it to end, yeah we both said bad things about each other, but when the dust settles i miss her like hell.
Weird Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 dude, your name is fitting for this broad. She is loco. Dunno what else to say other than be thankful you didn't marry this chick. Merin, well, in some cases it is true. A guy (or woman) could break up with a person and then turn into a slut. If this chick is blowing guys off as she walks down the street then she is acting slutty.
Merin Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Originally posted by Weird Merin, well, in some cases it is true. A guy (or woman) could break up with a person and then turn into a slut. If this chick is blowing guys off as she walks down the street then she is acting slutty. Yeah I know it happens.. I do like the smiley after slutty IF your EXGF is blowing guys walking down the street.. slutty IF your EXGF is bangin everyone she meets.. slutty IF your EXGF is offering 2 for 1's in the sex department with the 2 dudes she just met.. slutty BUT IF your EXGF is with someone else (and even if she isn't) this doesn't mean she's a slut.. it means you're pissed that she isn't with you.. the same applies for EXBF's
Author loco Posted February 2, 2005 Author Posted February 2, 2005 I know she wasnt seeing anyone while she was with me, maybe she needs a break, a few days of no contact, and i SMS her, we are starting to communicate.. what we had was good and she was a real close friend before, so i dont want to loose someone so special to me. Ill just give it time and see. I dunno.
guest Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I think i am in a very similar situation to your ex gf/ fiance. And I can't believe you said she is acting like a slut. it is obvious she wasn't ready to get into such a committed relationship and needs some time to go out and enjoy single life for a while. Taking a guys number, and maybe dating a few guys does NOT make her a slut, she is just having fun making up for all the time she lost when she was with YOU! Ok, i didn't mean to sound nasty but its true. Let her go out and have some fun, maybe she will realise she had it best with you, or maybe she will find someone who treats her really well and doesn't call her a slut!
ttjames Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 she is just having fun making up for all the time she lost when she was with YOU! That's such a mean remark!! Making up for lost time? WTF? You choose to be with someone, but then in the end you call it lost time? How exactly do you make up for this lost time? Do you calulate every moment you choose to be with this person and add it all up then calculate the potential partners you could have had (because after all life is all about that right) and then hunt around and make up for it in a week? or month? that to me is slutty and shallow whether it's coming from a man or a woman. Your attitude sounds slutty!
ziggue Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I'm guessing she was pressured into meeting the guys at first. You said they seemed to be asking her friends about her. Did your Ex's friends like you? Obviously not enough to let her hook up with someone. Wonder if they even knew the two of you were engaged. She must of resisted them a couple of times before letting her gaurd down and then giving into temptation. Guess she wasn't that really into you or the relationship. Sounds harsh but it's the truth. Wait till the guy screws up. She'll relise the mistake she had made then.
UCFKevin Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Her friends probably had a lot to do with it. Single friends can be conniving at times.
Author loco Posted February 17, 2005 Author Posted February 17, 2005 we argued and we both said bad things to each other, i came to this forum when i was upset, her friends are mostly younger than her and just want to have fun so probably convinced her to join them. its not lost or wasted time, i think back to all the good times that we had when i cant sleep. I do hope she decides it was best with me..
corden Posted February 20, 2005 Posted February 20, 2005 im goin throu exectaly the same thing, i was engaged and hav got a 16month old daughter. all was gud between us until her new friends came on the scene, they got her into drugs and she to became slutty for example i went clubbing with my mates and saw her out she had a mini skirt on with no underware. then today i found out that shes been shaggin my best mate and she admitts it. but after all that i sat down and thought long and hard about everything. i realised that the girl that i loved wasnt there anymore and nothing that i could do would bring back the old her. i thought if i try to get bac with her then she would walk all over me and really nobody wants that, i would hav been in a loveless relationship. theres plenty of girls out there that would love to be with u for who u r not what u can give them. i no its hard to think about her bein with another person but try not to think about it and remember this once a cheat always a cheat. shes goin out now and doin the things that her mates are doin thats exactaly what my ex did, she saw that there life was better than hers and she thought i want a peice of that. just let her go it will be hard for a while but always think to urself what she has done to you and u wont want to go back.
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