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gaius Established Member

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Well I've dated one before and she wasn't running off to kiss another woman the minute my back was turned so I guess I would again. :p

irc333 Established Member

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Yeah..and this makes me realize something. You hardly EVER Hear of Bisexual men. I think most Bisexuals are women, yes?

 

 

 

 

 

I would not be with a man that likes man on man action. The thought of him having sex with another man or just being turned on by another man would make him lose his entire masculinity in my eyes.
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I did date one for four years. Never really thought about it though because she claimed she changed (said how disgusting it is and how confused she was) and is religious now. Lolol riiiight.

 

I don't get intimidated by many, if anyone, and thus, tend to be very trusting in relationships. So I wouldn't care, per se, as in thinking guys and girls would be competition, but I certainly wouldn't seek a bisexual girl... something about it rubs me the wrong way.

 

 

Do I think girl on girl is hot? When I was a teenager. Plus, girl on girl in real life isn't like in the movies, anyways...

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In the end, I personally do not believe bisexuals exist. They are experimenting and they all have a strong preference and that preference is what reveals whether they are hetero or homosexual. Bisexual is a experimentation phase...

 

I think a lot of straight women proclaim to be bisexual because it's "trendy" or the "in" thing to do. Some even kiss in front of men in night clubs to get attention. But they aren't truly bi. Of course you'll see women rubbin' on each other at dance clubs while the guys just stare, but it's mostly just an act.

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It depends on the person. Im straight and lust over only the male body, so its not like I can relate.

 

I have been with someone who had an experience with a man before, though. It was neither a turnon neither a turnoff, even though it surprised me. I appreciated him trusting me with this sensitive piece of information (we live in a quite uptight society) and I trusted him as well. He never gave me a reason to question his loyalty and attraction the 3 years we were together, they were both very obvious. He was the kindest and most loving person I had a relationship with. I can recall him mentioning that he never imagined feeling so attracted to a woman before and that I awakened his lust for the oppossite sex. I blushed all over with this unusual compliment.

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Nickierose19 Established Member

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Again the majority including me would disagree with that first statement. You can't have anal sex with woman!! At least not the way he'd be hoping because women simply don't have the equipment to do so so therefore they should be dating a guy if that's what they are after. Asking a woman to strap something unnatural to herself so he can get his "fill" (no pun intended) seems stupid to me. If you want anal sex date a bloke, if you can live without it date a woman.

 

I agree with the rest though

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My point was that being bisexual doesn't mean you like anal sex and being straight doesn't mean a guy doesn't like anal.

 

 

Actually anatomically most men have the ability to enjoy anal sex it has nothing to do with sexuality.

 

 

At many points in life I wasn't too fond of the thought of vaginal sex at all. And I still am not that crazy about the male genitalia. Or any genitalia in fact I thought vaginas were gross. And penises were weird but tolerable at one point when I was younger. But I still was straight because I never saw girls as having any type of sexual appeal. And I always saw men or when young boys as sexually attractive. Different things set our sexualities off. It doesn't have to do with acts. I actually personally have had many fantasies and dreams about topping a guy. I don't think that makes me lesbian just it just means I wanted to do a certain act nothing to do with sexuality. I think the same goes for men. Not every straight women or straight men want the same missionary sex.

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My point was that being bisexual doesn't mean you like anal sex and being straight doesn't mean a guy doesn't like anal.

 

 

Actually anatomically most men have the ability to enjoy anal sex it has nothing to do with sexuality.

 

 

At many points in life I wasn't too fond of the thought of vaginal sex at all. And I still am not that crazy about the male genitalia. Or any genitalia in fact I thought vaginas were gross. And penises were weird but tolerable at one point when I was younger. But I still was straight because I never saw girls as having any type of sexual appeal. And I always saw men or when young boys as sexually attractive. Different things set our sexualities off. It doesn't have to do with acts. I actually personally have had many fantasies and dreams about topping a guy. I don't think that makes me lesbian just it just means I wanted to do a certain act nothing to do with sexuality. I think the same goes for men. Not every straight women or straight men want the same missionary sex.

 

If a bloke is bisexual he either will be giving it or taking it. Either way I wouldn't want it they are both equally as gross for lack of a better word in my eyes.

 

Btw I so think both vaginas, penie and balls are horrible to look at. However I'm not asexual quite the opposite lol!!

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Nope. I only date straight women seriously. Not into the experimenting or bi girls.

 

Also some guys will sleep with those bi girls like your roommates, but not commit to them. Which is why a lot of women are "bi or lesbian until graduation". Its no coincidence that the numbers of non-straight women really drop once females are past 30.

 

Heck a lot of these women use online dating, check off the straight option, but then answer questions that indicate a not so straight past.

 

 

 

No they weren't fake bisexuals though. Like one had a girlfriend that lived with us and they'd keep me up until 3 because of the noises they were making. Se would go back and forth she was a whore but she would definitely liked boobs and butt. She always claimed it loud and proud and last I knew of her she ha moved in with a girl. She liked guys a lot too. But it seemed genuinely 50-50. My other roommate was bisexual but hated it and didn't like gay men or transsexuals. She actually never mentioned I did because of something she said to her bf about a girl. The other partially was transgender she identified as a guy. I don't think any of them were trying to be bisexual that's just what they were.

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If a bloke is bisexual he either will be giving it or taking it. Either way I wouldn't want it they are both equally as gross for lack of a better word in my eyes.

 

Btw I so think both vaginas, penie and balls are horrible to look at. However I'm not asexual quite the opposite lol!!

actually many bisexual or even gay men don't like anal sex. that's not why they're necessarily bisexual or gay.

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actually many bisexual or even gay men don't like anal sex. that's not why they're necessarily bisexual or gay.

 

 

It can't possibly be why otherwise I as a straight woman wouldn't like it lol.

 

But everyone has "their ways" of having sex be they two women, two blokes or a woman and a bloke.

 

Lesbians use sex toys to have penetrative sex - I know this for fact

 

Gay men have to have sex somehow and they've only got one hole. If the mouth was deemed acceptable the gay male could easily just stick with a woman and get bjs all the time.

 

The reason they are bisexual gay or straight is simply - whatever turns you on be it make or female or both makes you one of those three categories. It's that simple

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It can't possibly be why otherwise I as a straight woman wouldn't like it lol.

 

But everyone has "their ways" of having sex be they two women, two blokes or a woman and a bloke.

 

Lesbians use sex toys to have penetrative sex - I know this for fact

 

Gay men have to have sex somehow and they've only got one hole. If the mouth was deemed acceptable the gay male could easily just stick with a woman and get bjs all the time.

 

The reason they are bisexual gay or straight is simply - whatever turns you on be it make or female or both makes you one of those three categories. It's that simple

 

 

Actually I was reading about men who frot... And I had a roommate who had a friend who gay and didn't like anal sex... He preferred oral sex. I actually dated a guy who was bisexual in high school who didn't like anal either rather oral or other outer sex as well. The reason they liked men wasn't just about the sex act but the fact that they found the individual attractive.

 

 

Like I said I personally didn't like the thought of vaginal sex. It's more on who you see as having a sex appeal as what shapes sexuality rather than sex acts.

 

 

Anal sex is disliked and enjoyed by gay bi and straight men alike.

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Actually I was reading about men who frot... And I had a roommate who had a friend who gay and didn't like anal sex... He preferred oral sex. I actually dated a guy who was bisexual in high school who didn't like anal either rather oral or other outer sex as well. The reason they liked men wasn't just about the sex act but the fact that they found the individual attractive.

 

 

Like I said I personally didn't like the thought of vaginal sex. It's more on who you see as having a sex appeal as what shapes sexuality rather than sex acts.

 

 

Anal sex is disliked and enjoyed by gay bi and straight men alike.

 

 

I'm sure anal is disliked by all of the above. However a man with a man can only have sex one of two ways. One bottom one top or switch. If they don't like anal I don't consider that having sex at all. Sex to me is penetration. Sure there is a good whole bunch of other things you can do but If you aren't having penetrative sex you aren't having sex at all in my eyes. Then all you have is attraction.

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I'm sure anal is disliked by all of the above. However a man with a man can only have sex one of two ways. One bottom one top or switch. If they don't like anal I don't consider that having sex at all. Sex to me is penetration. Sure there is a good whole bunch of other things you can do but If you aren't having penetrative sex you aren't having sex at all in my eyes. Then all you have is attraction.

 

 

 

 

 

by that logic you also must think lesbians can have sex as much as a person can have sex with themselves.

 

 

Anyhow oral sex is penetrative sex...

 

 

And your idea on what is sex really doesn't matter. You're putting your own sexual practices onto someone else. They're free to consider anything they do as sex and definition outer sex is sex just a different kind.

 

 

And well the whole sexualorientation has to do with attraction which usually leads to some type of sex acts.

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by that logic you also must think lesbians can have sex as much as a person can have sex with themselves.

 

 

Anyhow oral sex is penetrative sex...

 

 

And your idea on what is sex really doesn't matter. You're putting your own sexual practices onto someone else. They're free to consider anything they do as sex and definition outer sex is sex just a different kind.

 

 

And well the whole sexualorientation has to do with attraction which usually leads to some type of sex acts.

 

 

Hey doll you asked for opinions and that is mine. I'm not forcing it down anyone's throat, you asked for it.

 

People are always going to disagree with what you say or anyone else says that's life.

 

Hey ho!

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Hey doll you asked for opinions and that is mine. I'm not forcing it down anyone's throat, you asked for it.

 

People are always going to disagree with what you say or anyone else says that's life.

 

Hey ho!

 

 

 

yeah I was just stating mine and what I have experienced.

 

 

tbh, our personal definition on what sex is is pretty similar.

 

 

I was only pointing out a few facts

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It doesn't matter who you date, all it comes down to is trust at the end of the day.

 

Seems like most of you wouldn't trust someone just because he or she is bi. This stigma.

 

Anyone can screw you over.

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Men are much more open to dating girls who are bisexual than women who are open to dating men who are bisexual.

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Chiming in late to this one:

 

I'm a bisexual woman, and it's not an experimental phase. I'm in my 30s. I know what I like.

 

This may sound hypocritical/double-standardish, but I wouldn't date a bisexual MAN. I would fear that hetero sex could never stack up to homosexual sex, and my "parts would feel wrong" to him. Also, quite honestly, because I'm a little bit of a tomboy, I'd always have that insecurity that he was choosing me because I'm not overtly feminine.

 

And -- major generalization coming here but personal experience has shown me that many guys who identify as "bi" at some stage in their lives later just make the transition to full-on gay. I don't want to be a stage of that process for anyone.

 

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I had a male roommate who hooked up with/dated guys but claimed to be bisexual. We were very close friends. After living together for several years, one drunken night he put the moves on me, told me he was attracted to me.

 

We ended up having sex. And something about it just felt fundamentally wrong. It didn't seem that he was genuinely enjoying or taking pleasure in my body. I could actually SENSE him noting all the differences between my body and a man's body, possibly with a little distaste.

 

Later he claimed to want to make a real go at dating me, and I wasn't having it.

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I would not be with a man that likes man on man action. The thought of him having sex with another man or just being turned on by another man would make him lose his entire masculinity in my eyes.

 

But what if he's a power top? That's pretty masculine if you ask me ;)

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people get confused and lost.......in sexuality if a guy told me honestly and i knew without a doubt he was clean and std free and that it was a past experience and no intentions of ever going back there...yes i would date them......i am the last one to judge past sexual history.....but i do know people change sexual orientation for many reasons....i would be cautious if i didnt know the person for a few years....deb

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people get confused and lost.......in sexuality if a guy told me honestly and i knew without a doubt he was clean and std free and that it was a past experience and no intentions of ever going back there...yes i would date them......i am the last one to judge past sexual history.....but i do know people change sexual orientation for many reasons....i would be cautious if i didnt know the person for a few years....deb

 

I agree that's basically my stance on this but I wouldn't consider a guy bisexual because of a past experience. Bisexual is being attracted to both nearly equally which is something I can't handle personally.

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I agree that's basically my stance on this but I wouldn't consider a guy bisexual because of a past experience. Bisexual is being attracted to both nearly equally which is something I can't handle personally.

 

 

sorry i thought the opening post was about a past of homosexuality as far as bi sexual goes.......that to me is a choice undecided or not dealt with......i think IF were to date someone their understandiNg and my understanding would BE a mutual decision for a monogamous lasting relationship is a logn term goal held

 

 

if a guy were to say hey im bi sexual ...the happiness achieved from a hetero one on one relationship i feel with me would not be satisfying or even honest...so that is why i would accept a past but not someone who identifies as bi sexual...for me bi sexuality is a confusion....and a desire not to choose one sex over the other that is totally a personal belief held.....and skewed bias on my behalf..as i have a real pet hate about feeling confused....i am confused often enough...i need to dat esoemoen who doesnt confuse me conzstantly or is totally confused himself....lol...that would eb one huge tangle....of what the?......deb

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