would you date a guy or girl who was in a same sex relationship previously but?

April 4, 2014

was not homosexual? Like bisexual or pan or just curious whatever...

I was just wondering. I personally wouldn't but I have seen it happen quite a lot. Like my roommates most were bisexual. But would be dating straight guys. I'm just wondering doesn't it cause too much competition?

I have. I dated a woman who was a lesbian and married for 5 years. She was separated and going through a divorce. I couldn't tell she was a lesbian. Sex was very hot, and she was very good in bed. I have to say she must have been a straight woman all along.

April 4, 2014

I'm a guy, I'm not a homophobe, I support LGBT rights, and I have experience in this issue in question

NOOOO. Especially if the girl in question is attractive (makes it harder) I dated a girl, who was very pretty who admittedly 'fooled around with' another girl about 9? months before hand. (Why she told me this I do not know - I was fine though) but she like 'couldn't figure it out' and dumped me for a girl. The dumping was pretty sudden too, without any signs something bad was about to happen. Guys that's a tough pill to swallow. So I would avoid.

Just my 2 cents though from a bad experience. But it would never be as in I would ever discriminate/not hook up/turn my nose up, - anything serious though NOOOO lol

April 4, 2014

That's just the first step

Yup.

The appearance of other men is a non-issue to me.

Not always. Personally, I have seen some women as pretty or whatever butthat doesn't mean attraction

April 4, 2014

Not always. Personally, I have seen some women as pretty or whatever butthat doesn't mean attraction

Exactly! There is nothing sexual about thinking someone is pretty or handsome.

I'm not attracted to women on any level but I tell you what if I were gay or bisexual I would bonk the life out of some of them LOL

April 4, 2014

I think some women are turned on by bloke on bloke - the majority aren't though same goes for men you'd have to look very hard to find a guy who wasn't turned on by woman on woman.

That is really the deciding factor here. If something in your sexual past turns your current partner off that's you done finished gonzo!

If it turns them on - extra brownie points for you lol

I have heard there are actually plenty of woman who do enjoy man on man actually. It's more a matter on environment I think.

April 4, 2014

Exactly! There is nothing sexual about thinking someone is pretty or handsome.

I'm not attracted to women on any level but I tell you what if I were gay or bisexual I would bonk the life out of some of them LOL

I actually can't imagine myself as bi or gay. I can only imagine myself as straight basically

April 4, 2014

I have heard there are actually plenty of woman who do enjoy man on man actually. It's more a matter on environment I think.

There probably are - it's not impossible however the majority don't find it a turn on. I think it's circumstance and entirely depends on the person.

For me and many women I know (we've had this discussion before) if indeed you were turned on by man on man - they wouldn't date them because of their previous preference for many reasons one which included not having the right parts.

Sex with a woman and sex with a man are whole other ball games and sticking something up my blokes bum would make me feel inadequate and ill

April 4, 2014

I don't know. I feel for me it would depend entirely on the individual and his own situation. I guess I'm one of the odd girls who finds man-on-man kind of a turn-on in a certain way but I honestly don't know how I'd feel if one of them was my partner (even if it was long before we met). I think the nature of his relationships would influence how I feel, too-- if he was always into women but one time found himself falling in love with a man and pursuing it, that's pretty different than always liking men then falling in love with me and wanting to pursue it.

I'm trying to imagine-- if nothing was different about one of the actual men I've been in love with and our relationship except that he'd had a relationship with a man in the past-- I don't see how I could possibly pass him up for it. So, I guess, if I felt the man was really special, yes, I'd date him without any problem.

April 5, 2014

I would not be with a man that likes man on man action. The thought of him having sex with another man or just being turned on by another man would make him lose his entire masculinity in my eyes.

There is very much a double standard on this, though its embraced by both men and women. My gf is bi and she would have no problem if I was bi, but quite a few women think having dalliances with other females in the past was fine but would be 'eeewww' if they found out their bf/fiance had done similar. They see F on F action as being feminine/sexy/adventurous but M on M action as disgusting & un-masculine. I have to admit I do find FF sex a turn on (not with bull dyke types though) but the thought of 2 men a turn off. I don't mind being with a woman who points out sexy women when we are out. I'm not threatened or annoyed by it. I'm sure that would freak out a lot of women going out with a guy who pointed out handsome men to her, more so than if he was perving at pretty women.

As for this...

I wouldn't. I have absolutely nothing against bisexuals, gay people, pans however I think it's hard enough to date as it is without having to wonder if your boyfriend was bonking his best bloke friend...

Seriously you could just as easily say this about your new horny hunky hetro guy..."I think it's hard enough to date as it is without having to wonder if your boyfriend was bonking his best female friend or one of my gal pals or one of the single women at his job or some women he meets when he is away on business, or the women he meets when he goes out on boys nitghts out.

April 5, 2014

Yes.

Him wanting a monogamous relationship with me (and vice versa) is all that is really relevant.

A bi person is no more likely to cheat than a straight person. I don't trust due to lack of opportunity for my partnerZ

April 5, 2014

There probably are - it's not impossible however the majority don't find it a turn on. I think it's circumstance and entirely depends on the person.

For me and many women I know (we've had this discussion before) if indeed you were turned on by man on man - they wouldn't date them because of their previous preference for many reasons one which included not having the right parts.

Sex with a woman and sex with a man are whole other ball games and sticking something up my blokes bum would make me feel inadequate and ill

Enjoying anal sex doesn't have anything to do with sexuality you know? Straight men can like the same action many do. My personal issue with dating someone who was bi would be the fact that they like men in the same way that I do I'd feel I'd never have a chance with him because I could never be in like an open relationship and if he truly liked men and was bi he could never go without men. I could date someone who was only experimenting though that wouldn't be a problem for me.

April 5, 2014

one question how is ff sex feminine?

Actually physiologically lesbians tend to have more testosterone and therefore more hormone imbalance while gay men tend to actually have more testosterone than straight men. So how is it ff sex is more feminine and mm less masculine?

There is very much a double standard on this, though its embraced by both men and women. My gf is bi and she would have no problem if I was bi, but quite a few women think having dalliances with other females in the past was fine but would be 'eeewww' if they found out their bf/fiance had done similar. They see F on F action as being feminine/sexy/adventurous but M on M action as disgusting & un-masculine. I have to admit I do find FF sex a turn on (not with bull dyke types though) but the thought of 2 men a turn off. I don't mind being with a woman who points out sexy women when we are out. I'm not threatened or annoyed by it. I'm sure that would freak out a lot of women going out with a guy who pointed out handsome men to her, more so than if he was perving at pretty women.

As for this...
Seriously you could just as easily say this about your new horny hunky hetro guy..."I think it's hard enough to date as it is without having to wonder if your boyfriend was bonking his best female friend or one of my gal pals or one of the single women at his job or some women he meets when he is away on business, or the women he meets when he goes out on boys nitghts out.

April 5, 2014

I think all you may gain from this thread is the majority of men would date a bisexual woman and most of the women wouldn't date a bisexual man.

Women aren't turned on by dude on dude like men are by woman on woman and that plays a very large part in that decision I think

Yes that turns me on, but I don't think I could have a serious relationship with a bisexual woman. She'll crave something I don't have and I'm not gonna let her sleep with women. As much as it turns me on, I wouldn't be comfortable with with it. Too weird and I wouldn't allow my wife to sleep with anybody but me, as I wouldn't sleep with anybody but her.

April 5, 2014

Just to chime in here. I've dated a bisexual woman and while it does bring an entirely different meaning to "girls night out", I rationalized it as the fact that I was in an exclusive relationship with her meant that she chose me, out of everyone else in her life (male or female) as worthy of her attention. Yay me! Take that b***hes. Heh.

April 5, 2014

There is very much a double standard on this, though its embraced by both men and women. My gf is bi and she would have no problem if I was bi, but quite a few women think having dalliances with other females in the past was fine but would be 'eeewww' if they found out their bf/fiance had done similar. They see F on F action as being feminine/sexy/adventurous but M on M action as disgusting & un-masculine. I have to admit I do find FF sex a turn on (not with bull dyke types though) but the thought of 2 men a turn off. I don't mind being with a woman who points out sexy women when we are out. I'm not threatened or annoyed by it. I'm sure that would freak out a lot of women going out with a guy who pointed out handsome men to her, more so than if he was perving at pretty women.

As for this...
Seriously you could just as easily say this about your new horny hunky hetro guy..."I think it's hard enough to date as it is without having to wonder if your boyfriend was bonking his best female friend or one of my gal pals or one of the single women at his job or some women he meets when he is away on business, or the women he meets when he goes out on boys nitghts out.

You are correct you could. But I wouldn't date someone who had an extremely close female best friend to me personally it would be like a three way relationship. If a man is bisexual he could well be screwing any of his friends. At least if he's heterosexual you don't have to worry about the guys at the very least.

April 5, 2014

Enjoying anal sex doesn't have anything to do with sexuality you know? Straight men can like the same action many do. My personal issue with dating someone who was bi would be the fact that they like men in the same way that I do I'd feel I'd never have a chance with him because I could never be in like an open relationship and if he truly liked men and was bi he could never go without men. I could date someone who was only experimenting though that wouldn't be a problem for me.

Again the majority including me would disagree with that first statement. You can't have anal sex with woman!! At least not the way he'd be hoping because women simply don't have the equipment to do so so therefore they should be dating a guy if that's what they are after. Asking a woman to strap something unnatural to herself so he can get his "fill" (no pun intended) seems stupid to me. If you want anal sex date a bloke, if you can live without it date a woman.

I agree with the rest though

April 5, 2014

was not homosexual? Like bisexual or pan or just curious whatever...

I was just wondering. I personally wouldn't but I have seen it happen quite a lot. Like my roommates most were bisexual. But would be dating straight guys. I'm just wondering doesn't it cause too much competition?

Nope. I only date straight women seriously. Not into the experimenting or bi girls.

Also some guys will sleep with those bi girls like your roommates, but not commit to them. Which is why a lot of women are "bi or lesbian until graduation". Its no coincidence that the numbers of non-straight women really drop once females are past 30.

Heck a lot of these women use online dating, check off the straight option, but then answer questions that indicate a not so straight past.

Edited April 5, 2014 by kaylan

April 5, 2014

Yes that turns me on, but I don't think I could have a serious relationship with a bisexual woman. She'll crave something I don't have and I'm not gonna let her sleep with women. As much as it turns me on, I wouldn't be comfortable with with it. Too weird and I wouldn't allow my wife to sleep with anybody but me, as I wouldn't sleep with anybody but her.

Exactly my point! At the beginning sure someone would date a lesbian and things gawd I hope I get a threesome that is so hot to watch my woman canoodling with another woman. That may well happen. However long term wise it probably wouldn't go too well.

Bisexuals want both a penis and a vagina and unless by some weird wacky way there are people like that then they aren't ever going to be entirely for filled because something is lacking. Namely a body part lol

April 5, 2014

I wouldn't. I have absolutely nothing against bisexuals, gay people, pans however I think it's hard enough to date as it is without having to wonder if your boyfriend was bonking his best bloke friend...

That's just me though

Kinda how I feel about bi chicks. Plus having seen guys friends and lesbian friends date bi women...the drama involved turned me off from ever wanting to deal with it myself.

I would not be with a man that likes man on man action. The thought of him having sex with another man or just being turned on by another man would make him lose his entire masculinity in my eyes.

I feel similarly regarding women. Theres nothing more feminine to me than a woman who solely love a masculine man. Women who like women seem less feminine. And my college experiences color this a lot...because the way I saw bi and lesbian women behave, reminded me of how my bros and I act when we are on the prowl.

So I just dont see female on female the same way anymore. A woman into that wont come across as the type of femininity I desire.

Edited April 5, 2014 by kaylan

April 5, 2014

As a guy, I would not completely dismiss the possibility of dating a woman who had a relationship with another woman. As per your female, bisexual friends dating guys, well, there's nothing strange about that. They claim to be "bi"-sexual, so they could date either way.

In the end, I personally do not believe bisexuals exist. They are experimenting and they all have a strong preference and that preference is what reveals whether they are hetero or homosexual. Bisexual is a experimentation phase...

Gotta disagree with this. Having had bisexual friends, I do feel its a valid orientation, despite my only wanting to date straight women.

Having a stronger preference for one gender does not mean someone isnt still bisexual.

Also, its been theorized that humans are innately bisexual to a degree and that social conditioning pushes us down the straight path. Which could explain a lot of human sexual history, as well as the incidence of so many in the closet bisexual people (mainly men).

I think all you may gain from this thread is the majority of men would date a bisexual woman and most of the women wouldn't date a bisexual man.

Women aren't turned on by dude on dude like men are by woman on woman and that plays a very large part in that decision I think

Lol think again.

Ive known plenty of women who think guys making out or getting it on is hot. Doesnt mean they would date them though. Just look at fan service in certain types of Western music (scene-core music and some alt rock). Or Japanese music too...especially visual kei bands. Also, Slash fiction is another example...and thats written by women generally.

I think many women just dont openly say they are into that stuff as much because of the double standard stigma regarding male and female same-sex relations. Because at the end of the day, straight men control society and media...and their views get pushed out and influence everyone.

Which is why sometimes Ive come across hypocrite bisexual women who give biphobic reasons for not wanting to date bisexual men (hes prolly closet gay, I dont want to compete with men, etc). They basically get fed a lot of crap from a society that doles out what straight men like. We see girl on girl stuff thrown in our face a helluva lot more than guy on guy stuff.

Its not a surprise why when you consider whos at the top of most big companies.

Edited April 5, 2014 by kaylan

April 5, 2014

Gotta disagree with this. Having had bisexual friends, I do feel its a valid orientation, despite my only wanting to date straight women.

Having a stronger preference for one gender does not mean someone isnt still bisexual.

Also, its been theorized that humans are innately bisexual to a degree and that social conditioning pushes us down the straight path. Which could explain a lot of human sexual history, as well as the incidence of so many in the closet bisexual people (mainly men).
Lol think again.

Ive known plenty of women who think guys making out or getting it on is hot. Doesnt mean they would date them though. Just look at fan service in certain types of Western music (scene-core music and some alt rock). Or Japanese music too...especially visual kei bands. Also, Slash fiction is another example...and thats written by women generally.

I think many women just dont openly say they are into that stuff as much because of the double standard stigma regarding male and female same-sex relations. Because at the end of the day, straight men control society and media...and their views get pushed out and influence everyone.

Which is why sometimes Ive come across hypocrite bisexual women who give biphobic reasons for not wanting to date bisexual men. They basically get fed a lot of crap for a society that doles out what straight men like. We see girl on girl stuff thrown in our face a helluva lot more than guy on guy stuff.

Its not a surprise why when you consider whos at the top of most big companies.

I agree it's entirely possible for women to think guy on guy is hot. There probably are many many women out there that do. I'm not one of them and I think even if women are attracted to that they wouldn't date a bisexual man for many reasons and they also wouldn't admit it either

April 5, 2014

I think a part of that is that female on female sex is more natural and more socially acceptable than male on male.

Women are more fluid in their sexuality than men are.

Lastly, everybody believes that women are hot

^Good example of the false ideas about sexuality fed to people by our society.

How is female on female sex more natural? There are plenty of incidences throughout human history of man on man sex. Basically, if it happens in nature, I deem the sex natural. Though I would say man-woman sex is the "most natural" because it produces offspring.

Women are not more fluid sexually. Look at STD stats. Why do you think so many women are getting HIV through hetero sex, while most men who contract the virus get it from homosexual sex? Men being "on the down low" is not a new thing. A lot of guys stay in the closet because society isnt as accepting of non-straight male sexuality.

And society largely viewing women as hot is a function of recent Western society being obsessed with female sexuality. Female sexuality is basically shoved into everyones face so that you always associate the female body with fvking...meanwhile if a tv show or move show a guys ass (even a guy in good shape), many people would rather say ewww than be caught appreciating its look.

Think about it. Are women really that more appealing than we can be as men? Id like to believe I can be very appealing to a woman. Hell, think about Michelangelo's David. Back in those times male physical appeal was very much promoted and appreciated on a large scale.

/sociological rant lolz

April 5, 2014

I don't know ....Maybe?

If I am really crazy about him......Really really crazy about him!

so a small maybe

April 5, 2014

I agree it's entirely possible for women to think guy on guy is hot. There probably are many many women out there that do. I'm not one of them and I think even if women are attracted to that they wouldn't date a bisexual man for many reasons and they also wouldn't admit it either

I agree. What people like in fantasy or porn isnt the same as what they would desire in real life.

I wont lie, I do find bisexual or lesbian porn hot sometimes. But I search for the real stuff...not the gay for pay crap (which is what most porn actresses seem to be). I generally look for amateur women on women stuff, because those tend to be real couples with real passion. I cant get into the mainstream woman on woman stuff because it tends to look forced, and the women generally have NO idea how to eat vagina.

That all said, I look at a bunch of stuff in porn that I wouldnt find appealing in real life.

April 5, 2014

I don't really think women or men are more appealing than eachorher.

If we were talking sexual bits themselves I think it's all none too attractive and whoever or whatever created us should have been slightly kinder there pmsl

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