aliveagain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 You have enough information to make a decision, one guy 5 guys, to me one guy is one guy too much. Make the decision, this is your life and at some point your going to decide that enough is enough. She has made you the third person in your own marriage, openly dating wasn't part of my marriage vows, is it part of yours? Your wife doesn't respect boundaries, the worst job for her would be a job that involves travelling and being alone with men. Is it possible she use's sex to close deals? Time to change the the way you deal with her because what you are doing now isn't working. She may be beautiful on the outside but inside, she is a master of deception, a liar and someone that you can't trust. Is this your idea of a marriage partner? Come on, what does it take, an STD and catching her in the act? Sharing your wife with other men is way worse than divorce. People in her office may already know the truth, stop being the talk at the water cooler.Talk to a lawyer, have her served or she will never take you seriously. If you don't respect yourself, who will? 1
bv120 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Her cheating may subside for brief periods, but rest assured it will re-emerge. Unless you enjoy having a wife that has intercourse with other men I would say you need a divorce. Otherwise she will continue to disappoint and hurt you. Face the facts, get your divorce. bv
Lvsdogs Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 In the end, while nice to be a hottie, it doesn't matter what they look like but who they are as a person. I look ten years younger than I do, I'm fit, and I've been told I'm nice to look at. And I'm on this site bc I've been cheated on. Hanging on to how beautiful someone looks won't make you any happier. Looks go away. Personalites and being a good person don't. I don't really see remorse on her part. Without that, there's no possible way to reconcile. What's the point? You're only going to get hurt again. As others have said, it sounds like you've made up your mind already. Trust your gut. It's usually never wrong. 2
2sunny Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Do not attempt to recover your marriage unless WW agrees to a polygraph test. Finds another job with no over night travel. Leaves that job if OM were co workers. Even these requirements won't keep her from cheating. If she likes to cheat - she's going to cheat. If he accepts that she continues cheating - ok. If it bothers him - then divorce her. Her pattern shows she will likely keep cheating. What does your pattern show? That you keep overlooking her bad behavior? 1
lolablue17 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I agree with DKT3 You said she is a new person, but if she refuses to give any detail, so there is no full remorse here. Her new behavior is not 100% true. So I advice you to do what DTK3 did. tell her you are leaving and leave - and the reason is her lies and deceptions. If she continue to deny while you're packing - leave! 2
Artie Lang Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 She has had 3 affairs I think. this is all you need to know, as far as i'm concerned. 2
2sunny Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I agree with DKT3 You said she is a new person, but if she refuses to give any detail, so there is no full remorse here. Her new behavior is not 100% true. So I advice you to do what DTK3 did. tell her you are leaving and leave - and the reason is her lies and deceptions. If she continue to deny while you're packing - leave! Nope - pack HER bags to leave = she's the one cheating! She needs consequences.
lolablue17 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Nope - pack HER bags to leave = she's the one cheating! She needs consequences. If he wanted to leave he would have done that already. Right now he wants the full truth. 1
Author gotsohosed Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Unbelievable outstanding responses!! Thank you all and you are all 100% correct. Time to go!
aliveagain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Unbelievable outstanding responses!! Thank you all and you are all 100% correct. Time to go! If nothing else this will wake her up. Talk to a lawyer, do everything properly, protect your finances. Most of the fear we experience in break ups is the fear of making the decision to be alone. You get over it, I promise. Glad you have made a decision, believe nothing she tells you, believe her actions. 1
TiredFamilyGuy Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 I'd pick a plain jane honest nice smart woman over a crazy lying "hottie". No trust, no marriage. Divorce - you will be glad you did. Also it might get her to pull her head out of her ass.
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