Caught him cheating don't know ?

[bigproblem]

Sorry this may be long, but I need to tell someone

 

My husband and I have been married for 2 years now, he is 22 and I am 23, we have a 10 month old son

 

I was at work and he was home with the baby, I came home a little early from work and there as a car sitting outside the house, I thought nothing of it, just that it was a friend. Came inside, heard noises, I went upstairs quietly and just remember thinking "no way. This is not happening. I'm dreaming. This is a sick dream" I pushed the bedroom door open and he was in bed with some woman, she was holding onto his arms, and they were red and sweaty, it was really passionate sex (the kind he never has with me.) and I was standing in complete shock

 

It was unprotected too and he just looked at me and kept going and said "um hi." Then I ran downstairs and I heard him swear and come after, I was down in the kitchen crying and he came in naked, still aroused, I shouted "how did you do this to me?" And he grabbed me and just held me while I cried. Then SHE came down naked too and looked at me and said

 

"Your are SUCH a baby!" and I shouted "who are you??" She ignored me and said "he finds you boring in bed." Then she walked out, gets her clothes and gets in the car, I go after and shout "how could you sleep with my husband, she ignored me and drove off.

 

He told me she was 44 and a divorcee and that she had a son. I can't look at him all I see is her holding onto his arms and I almost vomit.

 

It's not the first time, he told me he slept with her twice at her house while they locked her 6 year old son in the living room so he wouldn't walk in on them!!!

 

My mother in law asked me if me and him had had sex one morning a few weeks ago I said no and she had a funny look on her face, now I know because she has now said she came over and he was upstairs smelling of sex and the bed was messy, he told her it was me and him, so it was obviously a LIE and she was in OUR marriage bed again.

 

It breaks me heart even more because he did it all while our son was next door in his cot. And now his friend JUST revealed that when he was away on a business trip, they went out to a club and some model tried to seduce him but he refused, she told him her hotel room incase he wanted to sleep with her. So basically, he WALKED to her hotel room, knocked on her door and slept with her. Then came home and acted lovey dovey to me.

 

Also, a week before I Caught him we were playing monopoly with his nephew and I said to him "you're such a cheat." And he looked at me and said "what do you mean" really fast. I just said that he was cheating on the game, then he laughed really hard and said "I am a dirty little cheat aren't I?" A voice inside me head went "hmmmmm" but I just thought "no my husband would never cheat on me ever!"

 

We have not talked about what has happened in ages, we just go about our life, sometime I cry and he just ignores me one, one night he asked if I wanted "to make love" I said ok, but the moment we started, SHE flashed in my mind and I saw her holding onto his arms while they had really passionate sex, he NEVER has that kind of sex with me, I started crying and he ignored me and just finished off.

 

Sorry for the long description! Had to let it out, I told my mum what he did, and she and dad is coming over to have a chat with him, I told him this and he looked like he had **** his pants. I know he is scared of my dad, VERY scared of him. He's been acting weird today and hardly talking because he knows he will get it from my dad tonight. Sorry I had to let this out, I have no one to talk to, only him but ever time I look at him I see them I'm bed together, on my side of the bed too!!!

I love him so much, I don't want to get a divorce, I can't think of what to do at all. I just made this account too btw

[Zahara]

It's so sad to see a woman at 23 throw her whole future away for a cheater and a serial one at that. The man did you so wrong and you actually slept with him. And you were crying and he just went about finishing his business. I don't even know what to say.

 

It would be futile to tell you to leave but all I'll say is that your life won't be the same again. You'll forever look over your shoulder.

 

It would be one thing if he strayed and came to you begging for forgiveness. He didn't do anything -- no remorse, no regret, no tears, no nothing and you just accepted him back like he did no wrong.

 

The only thing you've taught him is that you will tolerate cheating. This will not be the end of his infidelity.

[LadyM]

You are so young and have so many good years ahead of you. Such a shame to waste another moment with this cad of a husband. He's not really a husband to you. He is a user and abuser.

 

With a beginning like this, this marriage is doomed to fail. Whether it takes another week or five more years to end, you can be assured, it will end. He has no feeling for you. He does not care.

 

My hope is that you don't waste anymore of your precious youth with a man who will only bring you sadness and inexplicable grief.

[Vanilla_Tinkie]

I have to commend you for being able to remember everything in such detail and even inspect whether or not it was unprotected sex. Heck if something like this would happen to me I would be too shocked to even remember the words that left their mouths...

 

Anyway I suggest you divorce him and find someone worthy of your time and love, life is too short to hang around and see if things will change.

[bluegreen]

Even with a child you got nothing to do there anymore what a scum and what a trash he managed to find.

To lock up 6 year old child so they would not get caught by them it makes me wanna puke just as much as it does you i read some disgusting things but this has to be top of it.

 

Call a lawyer and start preparations TO PROTECT YOURSELF and your rights.

Take it all you have a child to raise and look out for MOVE start doing things NOW before he empties your account takes stuff and leaves you on a street.